For those of you who have miscarried..what did you do with your fetus if you were far enough along for one to come out? Did you flush it down the toilet or bury it? I miscarried last week and I was curious what other women have gone through.
2006-06-13 23:30:28 · 12 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I took the baby or fetus to the doctors with me. They didn't want it.
2006-06-13 23:33:20 · update #1
I'm not joking..and some consider it a baby while others consider it just a 'fetus'. I didn't flush mine down the toilet.
2006-06-13 23:36:02 · update #2
I was 12 weeks and definitely considered it a baby. My miscarriage progressed so quickly that by time I had started bleeding, my baby had gone back to the size it was at about 4 weeks. I was 19 at the time and living at home. My mom maid me flush the baby, she said it was the best thing to do.
You'll never really be over it, put I do hope you start the healing process soon. I went into a deep depression and stopped living. I was like a zombie almost. I finally made a life decision that snapped me out of it, gave me my wonderful husband, and we're now expecting our second child.
I feel the pain you are going through and I wish you the best. Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-14 02:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 21:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't far enough along to bury it but i did find out what it was and i still miss him even although i didn't get to know him.
To answers your question your fetus is part of you from day one, you should want to bury the baby, and to remember it for the rest of your life. Flushing was not an option. I didn't get a chance to bury my little one they had incinerated it before I could do anything
2006-06-13 23:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage last year but i was only 4-5 weeks pregnant but no matter how far along you are it hurts. It is something you will never forget. If that hadn't of happened to me i would be holding a almost 5 month old baby in my arms today.
Things happen for a reason. I am sorry for your loss. Maybe you could have a customed made very small casket or someone could make a small wooden box and you could bury your baby in there.
I wasn't that far along for anything like that to come out of me--Just blood.
So Sorry
2006-06-13 23:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there,
I have had 3 full term pregnancies and 5 miscarriages.
The last 2 were a early on and the hospital took care of it for me. Mainly due to shock.
One of my pregnancies was carried until 19 weeks and I asked the hospital to wrap her so she could be buried and this was done BUT she wasn't allowed to leave the hospital as it was only considered a foetus and not a baby so we had a plaque made.
I hope your pain eases and you have happier days ahead.
Regards Petara
2006-06-14 00:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by petara h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to the hospital when I miscarried, I lost my baby on 8-29-2000 and I'm not sure what they did with.. but it's something I'll never forget. I made a little memory box, cause I had sonograms of the baby. I went through couseling, and talked with other bereaved mothers, and even named it, because it helped with my healing process.
2006-06-13 23:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by farside76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I miscarried in 2001. i was pregnant with my second child, i didn't know that i was carrying twins. one didn't survive but it was unable to come out. they couldn't do a d&c because they said it would effect the other. i was told that it would disintegrate. it was horrible knowing that it was still there. If it would have come out i'm not sure what i would have done. I'm sorry to here that you have had to go through this.
2006-06-13 23:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...Is this a serious question? You wouldnt refer to your baby and flushing it down the toilet in the same sentence. This is a joke.
2006-06-13 23:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by julia4evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry for lose.. you may want to go back and see if you passed all of the baby...i've never miscarried but my mom did and when she found out was told she was told to go back home and carried a dead baby in her for three months.. so you just might want to go back to the doctor and see if everything is out of you,..
2006-06-13 23:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They kept it at the hospital for pathology testing.
2006-06-14 02:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by jojodaqtpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋