I met a girl on net, we became a dearest friend to each other. I Love her so much. she already have a boyfriend who has betrayed her earlier and came to my friend again after his lover betrayed him. My Friend accepted him. but after she dwell in love with me and proposed me, as i Love her so much i accepted her proposal, she is in a confussion to get marry. to whom she will be married. She now wanted to marry her first love, she is going to ruin herself. I tried a lot for stopping her to do that. but she is not listening. we have a time of 3 years. wht should i tell her to stop ruin herself. I Love her sooooooooooo much. we met and had a very good and best time with each other, by that time she doesn't seem to loose me? how can i stop her, plz help me some one..
2006-06-13 23:25:47 · 22 answers · asked by samy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she feels the same way as you do, then she will choose you. If not, then you should find other girl that loves you. This situation can let you know whether your girlfriend really loves you. Wish you happiness in your life with the 'real one'.
2006-06-13 23:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by dina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I (you, we)know how much you love her and how much your are willing to do anything for her, but you have to realize that there comes a time in a relationship when simply loving someone isn't enough, when being loved in return becomes as vital as loving the other person. If she doesn't love you anymore, then there is no more reason for you to stay. The only way to stop hurting is to stop wanting, and the only way to stop wanting is to start accepting that she is probably not the same person anymore. Then and only then can you move on to finding the happiness that becomes truly rewarding when shared with the person who loves us in the same way. Its really hard to fool ourselves, they said " if you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were"
2006-06-14 07:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by WALLY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see,the problem with love is that there are no guarantees that the person you love is going to love you back the same way you do.And the thing with some women(including myself)is that we fall in love with people even we know are completely wrong for us,but we cant help it.We don't choose someone because he is nice,loving,understanding,..in fact,we don't seem to choose at all-its not a matter of reason.And it hurt us most of all,believe me.Try to forget her-you have to accept the fact that you cant know what is best for her-nobody can.Everybody should be free to make their own decisions.
2006-06-14 06:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by K* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you, especially if you met them only online. She may have enjoyed chatting with you, etc. but she does have a mind of her own and you need to let her make that decision. Holding on too tightly only pushes people further away. Be a man and step back a bit. She'll probably admire you for it. I know because I've been in a similar situation.
2006-06-14 06:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet love is so hard to judge. Emotion is hard to detect through text. What you might perceive as a heartfelt emotional conversation, someone else may think that it was all one big joke. I'm not saying that your situation is not unique, it might very well be unique. But from my experience with people that you know are going to be making a huge mistake; it is hard to tell someone how it is going to be, even if you are persistent and have prior experience with it. People are going to do what they want to do regardless of who is telling them what might happen. I have a quote that fits this situation pretty well. ~You can speak from experience, but experience itself speaks~.....Meaning that she will never actually know that your right until she experiences it herself.. My advice would be to maintain a good friendship with her and help her through whatever might happen.... It sounds like she needs a good friend right now, and who knows what might happen down the road... In any manor i wish you the best of luck! I hope this has been helpful....
2006-06-14 06:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by John G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her then, assure her that if she will marry you she will be safe and that nobody would hurt her and besides you love him right and when a person being love and her love is in the state of confusion then you have all the time to get her well...
2006-06-14 06:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her - let her go - she will anyway and at least you may maintain a friendship. If her life will be ruined because of this she will need you later. Let her know how you feel about her without trying to change her mind about her decisions
2006-06-14 06:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by MS L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met her while she was hurting from her past relationship, she had not gotten over her bf and although she and you got close she still had feelings for him. It may be a mistake for her to marry him but it is her mistake to make, if you love her you have to let her go for now, if she comes back to you then she's yours. If you try to pressure her you will lose your friendship altogether is it worth that risk?
2006-06-14 06:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that man. other than the E-harmony commercials (haha) I havent heard one sucess love story about meeting girls online. if this girl is confused now about who she loves, then theres really no way she's going to say with you for long. I know thats harse, and I'm sorry, but like I said, I've never heard of a couple getting together online that worked out. good luck man.
2006-06-14 06:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by kk_jediknight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone set her free, if she comes back , she is urs , if not..She never was ! so dont become her father , let her do wht she wants to do and secondly if she loves with 2 guys she should b well aware of expected results after her decision, so let it b she knows her self , u and the other guy more then anyone else ;) getting me
2006-06-14 06:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by N A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋