I want to die after all the pain i have been put through with my partners affair how do you forget it? It hurts so much i dont want to live please help
2006-06-13 23:23:32 · 34 answers · asked by dizzymooo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got revenge she came to my house and i gave her a black eye she would have got more to if she hadnt of run away to her car
2006-06-13 23:34:39 · update #1
It will hurt you so bad for a while. You need to try and be strong - you must care about YOU at this time. Go out with friends, take up hobbies, read, chill out, buy clothes .............. Maybe it would be an idea to have some counselling. This will help you understand and deal with your feelings. Right now you are so hurt and just cannot make sense of it all - understandable. Time is the best healer - I know that hearing that right now doesn't help but, trust me - it is! Mail me anytime if you wanna talk. Chin up, take care x
2006-06-13 23:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK, listen. You have the choice to decide what the affair means to you. I know that it's very painful, however, look at it this way. He has actually done you a big favour....he's shown you right now what he's really like. Think about it, it could have taken you months or years to find this out.....and that would have been an even bigger waste of your life. So it sounds strange, but be thankful that his selfish action has resulted in you now being free to make time and space for someone more deserving of your love. It may take some time to meet someone else, but you should have some fun times going through the process of meeting more people. Do not allow him to control your life so much to the point where your happiness depends on him. No way! If this happened to your best friend, think about what you'd say to them to help them to see the reality of the situation. What you don't want to do is to spend the next few months depressed, then suddenly wake up one day and think "hey, it was ages ago, time to move on, I been upset for longer that he and I were together....and that is nonsense. Good luck!
2006-06-13 23:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Zane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry.
I really do believe that nobody deserves this, and although I haven't been through anything that tough, I know it would kill me if my partner cheated on me.
First of all, he is not worthy of you. No man should be able to reduce a woman to the level you feel now. I doubt you will ever forget it, it's one of those terrible life experiences that we learn from. It makes us more guarded, more careful, and unfortunately crushes our self esteem.
That's what you are feeling right now, crushed, empty, alone and with a thousand questions in your head.
I would suggest going away for a while. Pack your bags, get on a plane with a good friend and catch a last minute deal. Put some money in your friends wallet every time you say his name or mention him, and you will have a whole weeks worth of drinks money.
Concentrate on your friends, and in a while you'll realise that you are better without someone as venomous as he in your life.
2006-06-14 01:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings at the moment are raw & the hurt you feel is immense...but you know you will find a way to live with it...sort out YOUR life & do what YOU want to do. you don't say if your partner has left you or is with you...If he's with you...you need to sit down & talk things through...Listen to one another & try to repair the damage to your relaitionship...Most important thing is to keep the communication going...
If he has left you for this other woman...Well you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off & look towards the future...your hurting now & you will for some time...but time is a great healer. Think what YOU would like to do with your future !
Contact old friends & family & do all those things you promised yourself you would do...
Enjoy the new found freedom you have... In a years time you will see this time now as a learning curve & just a blip on the rich tapestry of life.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 23:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by skippy's mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think leaving someone with a black eye is not the solution. I think you need to seek for help. Talk to someone about your feelings and your anger. You know something? If he has cheated on you.. He is the one that is losing out! You are an important human being and live is the most precious gift our parents could have given us. I am sure you will find a great person somewhere else and you will be happy. Just remember that this experiences make you stronger and stronger! Don't let your sadness ruin your life! Move on and leave him behind! Maybe move out from your house and start a new life.
TAKE CARE LUV! =)
2006-06-14 07:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Marmot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the offending husband, and move on with your life. It's gonna hurt, more than anything, but you can and will survive it. Just have faith in your inner strength. You don't NEED a partner, and you certainly don't need a husband who has so little respect for you that he's willing to throw away your marriage for an affair. You're better off without him. Be strong. Once you reach the other side, your life will be so much better.
2006-06-14 00:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only an after shocked phenomenon. It will fade away. The trick is that don't spend your time alone. Call your friends to come over and spend time together. It will help you to stop thinking of all these junks. Revenge or rebound sex are not an option. It will only create the new bad cycle. You will be a sole survivor soon, even you won't earn a million dollars.
2006-06-14 00:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is more presious than what you are going through right now, because this is just a passing phase and at the end of the tannel there are better things laid for you. Learn to start afresh in life if one thing does not work, then look elsewhere until you find what makes you happy and God can never fail you my dear. Remember God did not promise a life without pain, but promised to deliver you out of any kind of pain, he did not promise a life without tears, but promised to dry the tears away from your eyes and make you happy.
2006-06-13 23:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know it really sucks to get cheated on. You sit around wondering why you were not good enough to keep your partner faithful and why you can't make it like it was before. The truth is you should be asking yourself why were you wasting your time on someone who was clearly not good enough for you. This is not something that you can turn off like a switch, but you can be honest with yourself about it. Don't blame yourself for what happened, since you did nothing wrong. You deserve to be treated better than that sweetheart. Be happy that you did not waste any more time than you did on that guy, and that you are now free of him. Mr. Right is out there, and he will find you.
2006-06-13 23:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Gregie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it's like grief. There is no quick way out of the pain. You are hurting but you also have to deal with the deceit and lies and that can make you feel bad about yourself but you aren't the one who should be thinking less of yourself. Only time will heal the pain but get back out there and have some fun. Don't think about relationships for a while, you need to be with people that you love and trust for now.
2006-06-14 04:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋