I just recently found out that my other half married someone in the philippines. He's denied it.He say's he met the girl and they were drinking. they got drunk and had sex. She claims they have a civil marriage. Is this legal in the philippines or can it be annuled? I'm so broken hearted. I don't know what to do. We've been together 20 years. And she's 20yrs old. Would it be considered a legal marraiage in the US?
2006-06-13 22:35:23 · 11 answers · asked by broken heart 1 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
Hi, there are different rules applicable to get a marriage certificate in the Philippines. The provinces may have slight differences from each other.
However, knowing Philippines as a Catholic nation, he will need to certify his status to be granted a marriage certificate, and if he made any false declarations, there is ground for you to have it annulled. And another thing is that the marriage may be legal only in the Philippines, not in the US. So you are still married to him, not her.
You can try to approach the Philippines Embassy in US to ask for help to verify your husband marriage status in the Philippines. This can help clarify the truth.
Probably you need to do this one step at a time before making a key decision.
2006-06-14 19:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by peanutz 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'll tell you how you can deal with it....you can move on from the loser you spent the last 20 years of your life with, and find yourself someone new. After you get a makeover, a pedicure, and buy yourself something pretty, that is.
Seriously, he's obviously not worth you wasting your time on. He married someone else...a very YOUNG someone else....which is painful, of course. But the question you need to ask is, "Why would I still want him??" He does not deserve to have a good woman like you crying over him.
Were you guys not married? You say that you were "together" but don't say he's your husband. If you were together for 20 years without him marrying you that should be a warning sign.
Stop worrying about whether the marriage would hold up in court or not, and if you can beg and plead and demean your way back into his life, and move on. Do you think someone who is your true "other half" would treat you in such a way? Get drunk and sleep with a 20 year old? Marry someone else? My guess is that he wouldn't. But this one did. That should tell you something.
Best of luck to you.
2006-06-13 22:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First the claim of marriage, Civil won't hold water if your Husband is telling the truth. They have to check into a hotel as Mr.& Mrs. and have to announce this to several PPL that they are married. I think you should be looking into a seperation, I do not think this is the first time this has happened. Take off your blinders, your 'dog' (other half) is in heat and has been for awhile. So be thankful for what ever you think has been good for the last 20 years and try a seperation. Or at least have him nutered and leashed....
2006-06-13 22:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by themhjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are married, that means your marriage came first. Definitely his marriage to this 20 yr old Filipina is automatically null and void. Before they will be issued a marriage license, they need to have his status checked thru the US Embassy. My guess is, they weren't married by someone with a capacity or license to execute marriage. Marriages in other countries are recognized by Philippine Law. So, no problem about that aspect. BUT, would you still trust a man who has betrayed you this way? I mean, yes you can forgive him, but can you really forget? Think about it. This may be a wake up call for you.
Sorry to hear about this.
2006-06-14 22:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm No expert and would seek legal help in the Philippines...but,
I would have to guess that his so called civil marriage to the other woman is Null. since you are his legal spouse first.
then Dump him like a load of CRAP! that he is....My wife would dump me in a heartbeat if she found me with another woman...you should do the same.it happened once that you know of it will happen again..
Don't trust him...and I don't care how much he promises and begs.
He Broke a commandment and your Ultimate trust.
2006-06-14 12:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by barry_myster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to look deeper, in the last yrs. he is a faithful husband for the last 20 yrs, and he get hitched when visited manila in the last yr. i think there something wrong herre ask your husband again, you see love is a two way communication, and it is not binding the marriage in the phil and the usa you have two different law here, as long either party is not contesting the marriage, nothing happens
2006-06-14 13:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by lepactodeloupes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is legal in the US only if he processes it through the US Embassy with proof.
I am sorry to hear you had to go through all of this. You have my sympathy. It probably can be annulled but do you want to stay with him after this??
2006-06-14 00:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Adam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you need to get some counciling, but I suggest that it be with your priest, or pastor...If you do not have one, many will be glad to help you anyway...If he was seriously repentant, he needs to identify that if he were drunk enough to do something that he can't remember, then he needs to join Alcoholics Annonymous or something...to get treatment, because it's obviuos that he has a problem...Good luck, dear heart.
2006-06-13 22:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by heatherbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all legal marriages must file papers you can find them that way
2006-06-13 22:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is a nice word and u need to get one
2006-06-13 22:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by momof8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋