Few days back my 19 yr old nephew saw me naked and couldnot control himself and kissed my private body parts and he also got erection,though we didn't had sex and kept this secret.
we both sort this out and he accepted it was an accident and he won't repeat it again but whenever he meets, often touch my butt tightly when he hugs me.Also he stare at my body whenever we meet.
I am 39 yrs old married don't want to tell this to anyone as it can bring tension in family nor can I ask stop meeting him due to family ties
2006-06-13 21:39:19 · 23 answers · asked by ALISHA A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't think u're sick but I think that u may understand why the others do. What u did was wrong and I do believe that u are aware of it, however u are not taking any of the blame. It is ur body, u are 39 and u should be the one to control it, if u didn't want that to happen at all it wouldn't have. U most probably secretly liked him. He is only 19, I am not making excuses for him but his hormones are going nuts and an experience with an older woman is something he will most welcome, u are the adult here.
Sit down with this guy and explain it to him that u are his aunt for goodness sake, even if u haven't behaved like it. U need to earn his respect, and urself respect him. This shouldn't repeat itself even if u secretly want it to. U're only human and we all have drives and do stupid things sometimes, the importance is That we learn from it.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-14 02:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by myra1810 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What i can see is that, most people who are answering you, are busy finding your fault. I am sure, even you did not have control over the situation and in the end of the day any sane human being falters at some point in his/her life. well, it happened with you, so instead of running away from the problem, you must solve it!
firstly, there is no need to tell this to anyone as, it is your problem and you can solve it yourself. telling others would mean drawing responses the kind you can see on the net on this site. report to someone only if your nephew crosses limits or hurts you or blackmails you.
What happened was that the boy took the little misadventure as a permanent ticket to a sexual favor from you, what you must do is that every time he stares or touches you awkwardly you just snap back loudly and embarrass him. if this does not work, speak to him regularly and express your displeasure over his behavior and ask him to cool his heels with his girlfriend.
even if this does not work out, find the poor little thing a girl friend, probably he has not yet found his date and is probably frustrated!
2006-06-14 06:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by agnishul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! That is a CHILD!!! You are sick!! I am a 28 y/o mother of 3 children, and if that EVER happend to my son, I would so give a piece of my mind!! First of all, yoiu could have stopped him from kissing your private parts!! As an responsibe adult, and his AUNT no less, you should have!!!! You had best say something to his mom, before he tells her. He might make up a completely different story and blame it all on you, and then where will you be??? It is too late too worry about not hurting the family...that is inevitable now. I also find it very hard to believe you didnt encourage this...I just dont see this as an accident. I dont think anyone will, not even you, and that is why you are keeping it a secret, isnt it?
2006-06-14 04:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a private talk with your nephew, he should be old enough, and mature enough to understand you aren't comfortable with some of his physical contacts. Discuss how you are family, that is all, and what happened a few days back was a mistake, that shouldn't have happened, and won't happen again. He is 19, and probably still searching for himself- so it must be made clear you- any part of you, is a no fly zone, or he'll get bombed.
2006-06-14 04:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by seanied2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I know this is hard just sternly tell him that if it doesn't stop, you are going to have no other choice than to file a sexual harassment complaint against him with the cops. If you really want him to know you mean business tell him you will even take a step further and call the cops to tell them that he is molesting you whenever he comes near you. If all else fails tell your husband, or though it may hurt his father/mother. I wish you the best in your situation and hopes that it stops. This is a case of molestation I hope that you understand that.
2006-06-14 06:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by lmrm08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, it sounds to me that you do have a sex problem, but not the one you are trying to portray. You said in one of your previous questions, "well we didn't had sex but he kissed my body for hours." Something tells me that it was no accident that he saw you naked. I think it was intentional. Your yahoo profile states that you are a lonely housewife that is looking. You loved every minute of what he did. You claim that he started kissing you, well, honey, if you did not want what you got from him then you never would have allowed it to happen. You would have covered yourself when he walked in. Unless of course you were naked on purpose and hoping for your nephew to respond the way he did.
2006-06-14 06:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Daydreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should take a long long loooong vacation far from the family. after all u know what happen is very wrong even if to u it's very tempting. u must get far from him and let him understand there is no way anything will ever happen between u.
the family ties are NOT more important then what can happen to this young man or to u if..............
and u can still save it all, going far with the explanation u will be back.
2006-06-14 05:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥sweetie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has got to be a joke. You've even posted the same question on your yahoo profile. Just spoke with this person on Messenger and I'm pretty sure this is a joke. Either way this person is mentally ill and needs professional help asap.
2006-06-14 05:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by julia4evert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, he is your NEPHEW. Why would even allow it to go that far? Second, you are 20 YEARS older than he is. The next time you see him, tell him his behavior is not cool, that it bothers you, and that its inappropriate at family functions.
2006-06-14 09:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lacy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understnd that a young mae cant control their urges..but a young male to his older aunt.....
i also can understnd an older woman having urges....but2wrds her nephew.
How is it possible that you couldnt stop yourself from allowing this?
Maybe you both should seek seperate counselling (no offence intended)
2006-06-14 05:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by samchic86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋