I'm still in love with my ex wife.?

Question

In May of 2005 my wife told me she no longer loved me. She said she felt like a single mom because I had a very demanding job. She said she could take care of herself and didn't need me anymore. She chose her friends over her husband. She was all gung-ho when she found out she could get money from the state as a single mother to go back to school on and collect child support and live with her parents plus collect half of my 401K. We were high school sweethearts and got married after she graduated high school. We were together for 13 years and married 9 of those years. We have a 7 year old daughter together named Megan. I was crushed and put divorce off hoping to work things out. It got crazy in September so with advice from family I filed for divorce on 9-9-05. She was upset because the newspaper showed me filing against her. I was torn apart and became like a hermit with alot of unanswered questions. I took friends advice and started dating again.

I met someone and have many feelings for this person. I can't say I love her as much as my ex-wife or if I ever will just because there is so much history with my ex. We have been together now for 9 months. We are talking marriage. What do you think? I am very much still in love with my ex. How can I move on? My daughter says her mommy cries sometimes at night. I think she realizes she screwed up. What should I do? I feel I'm not being fair in my current relationship by having these feelings for my ex. I don't keep anything from my girlfriend. She knows how I feel about my ex and she says that she realizes it will just take me some time to get over her. I just miss my wife so much. I have so many memories that come up when I hear certain songs. Alan Jackson's (Remember When) just tears me apart because it is mine and her lives to the "T". Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!

My ex and myself see each other every two to three days. When I get my daughter on my days off. We said we would try to stay friends in this whole thing. We try to stay positive in front of our daughter. My daughter is actually taking it very well. Better than I thought. I can see how it effects her when she has spent a few days with me and then she has to go home to her mother. Either she doesn't want to stay with her or she doesn't want me to leave when I drop her off. She keeps calling me wanting to know when I'm picking her up.

Answer 1

I think yes.. you are..I know someone got divorce and remarried again to his ex wife..

There's no harm for taking another chance of going back to your wife, not only because of the fact that you have a daughter. Somebody said "love is sweatier at the second time around. Talk to your ex wife and discuss things with her. Try to know if she stills love you.. Intuition will not deny if she still have feelings for you,you will feel it right from the bottom of your heart. You just have to take time, especially after all what happen you are still friends.. It will not be difficult to bring back the things again.. If this not work, at least you try.. and give yourself a break and focus yourself on your child...

The girl living with you right now, be honest to her.. If you dont really love her, why waste time? or why hurt her? Honesty is always a pain for everyone, but remember it always brings you peace of mind. No things in this world greater than having a peace of mind. Knowing that you are being fair to everyone.

Answer 2

First off let me say how sorry I am that things haven't worked out for you and your wife. I cannot imagine how painful the last year has been for you BOTH. I'm no expert in this field, but I do know that just because she innitiated this seperation, it doesnt mean for one second that she doesnt still love you too! you guys have a long history, and a child together. I dont want to say 'oh I think you guys can make it work' because I know life is never that simple, but I do think that if you dont feel right about letting this go and giving up in it, then maybe let HER know that you are open to possibly making it work in the future? BUT again let me say, you may have been down this route and come to a dead end (I dont know so I dont want to pressume anything) and if that is the case, then just pray about wether you should move on or not, and if you feel its right then certainly, start dating but dont rush into anything, hearts take a long time to heal (I do know that from experience :) take care and all the best

Answer 3

Stop dating and find a good church and get some counseling. I have been divorced before and it does tear your heart out. Wait patiently for your ex-wife and see if she will go to counseling with you. If she will, hightail it over there. Don't get involved with anyone else yet. It has been too soon. U need to pray and ask the Lord to come into your life and he will help you and give u the answers u need. The relationship with your wife is too important. Your little Megan is going to be scarred for life from this divorce so try to patch it up with your ex-wife and ask the Lord to heal your relationship. Your family should be the first in your life, after the Lord, not your job. Pray about it and the Lord will tell you what to do and can change hearts when we can't do anything. He can work miracles!

Answer 4

I have friends who lost their wives through working too hard.
It seems to me that some women don't have the ability to take the long view...to recognise that the husband is devoting his life to his family.
Either that or it's just your fault for working so hard.
If your marriage was any good there should have been communication about the problem well before the divorce card was played.
It's just the way some women are.

Answer 5

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I'm still in love with my ex wife.?
In May of 2005 my wife told me she no longer loved me. She said she felt like a single mom because I had a very demanding job. She said she could take care of herself and didn't need me anymore. She chose her friends over her husband. She was all gung-ho when she found out she could get money...

Answer 6

First of all in the family matters you should take advice from elders because they have spent a good time to tackle family issues. In the whole your seven years old daughter will suffer due to callous relations between your and your wife. Your wife should realise that the role of mother is more important than father. In which country you live, is a free country who protect rights of every one but they do not know the minor can not know what is better for them.

I advice you to first contact your ex-wife and put all problems which you were faced and if she mould her attitude then you get remarried instead dating. life is precious gift of God and do not waste other ability like your son, daughter,

Answer 7

i think untill it is completely over with your wife u will never be at peace. maybe u won't like my suggestion, but i think it is better for u to contact your ex and talk with her. if she also still has feelings for u u might start it over. i am not sure it will be a success and there is no garantee u won't break up after a few months, but at least if u break up again u will have the end of issue with her and the end of your feelings to her. untill that u will be unhappy and miserable with that other woman. u have to end it first with your ex in your head not only on the paper. i wish u good luck

Answer 8

The bible says that you should reconcile. Do you know if she still has feelings for you? If she does, go to marriage counseling and get your hours at your job changed or get a new job. If you want to win her back you've got to put everything else aside and make her your priority.No matter what you decide, I wish you the best.

Answer 9

Your story is so sad. I feel for you and your wife. You should put your daughter first and knowing that you are still inlove with her mother makes it even better to try and work it out. Love like this only comes once in a life time.

Answer 10

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