I'm grown
He's grown
and i want a baby
2006-06-13 20:29:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
well like i totally feel wat everyones saying but like he asks as though he doesn't want to use protection we both have been tested and in what i believe to be a monogamous situation. but it wouldn't be tricking him cause the bastard wont use a condom anyway and i told him i dont do abortions. but thanxs for the advice everyone
2006-06-13 21:31:56 · update #1
tell him you are on birth control and no need in using condoms or you can't feel it real good with a condom on
2006-06-13 20:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with happy dance alot. This poor child isn't even here yet and I'm feeling sorry for it already. My ex-husband and I didn't plan on having children right away but now we have 2 and him and I are divorced. It's very hard. We still do what we can for them but it's not the same when they have both parents together for them. I think you really need to think things out ALOT. If your guy isn't willing to use condoms what makes you think that when the child is born that he's going to do anything for it. If he can't respect you now and use condoms, when will he respect you. Is he going to be there when the child wakes up at 2 in the morning or when it needs a diaper change or has colic or when it's sick and teething, will you be there? I hope I'm scaring you a little because you really need to think this out. Yes babies are cute, but are you ready for everything that comes along with it. I really hope you think this out. On the other hand how would you feel if you were the guy and got tricked?
2006-06-14 02:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by daizy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you said "I'm grown, he's grown, and i want a baby" - but you seem to have left out him wanting one.
Just to let you know, "tricking" a guy into having a baby often backfires. Guys will leave you in a heartbeat if they're not ready; they will not be there for you emotionally, physically, financially... They WILL LEAVE YOU. Especially if they are taking actions to PREVENT you from becoming pregnant.
If you're ready for a baby, are you ready to do it alone? If you are, maybe you should look into getting a donor? Someone willing to "get you pregnant" WITHOUT the repercussions? It's really, really not a wise idea to trick someone into having a child if they are not ready. I am telling you, he very well may leave you. Do you want the relationship AND a baby, or do you just want a baby? Because if it doesn't matter who the daddy is, you should really consider getting a donor... Just my suggestion, having a baby is a very, very big deal, not something to be taken lightly or jumped into... or tricked into.
Please think about this.
2006-06-13 20:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by happy-dance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is a huge life altering event. Being "grown" isn't enough reason to have one. Having a child even with the support of the other parent is hard enough, I'd hate to try to do it alone... which is more than likely what will happen if you try to "trick" him into it.
I would sit down and have a serious conversation with your boyfriend. Obviously, he's not interested in taking precautions against pregnancy but it doesn't mean he's willing to take responsibility for his actions either. If the two of you are not on the same page in regards to having a child, then maybe you should look even closer at your relationship and see what else you're not on the same page over!
Good luck!
2006-06-14 03:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor, sign up for a weekend of taking care of a friends child and see if that is really what you want. Because if your boyfriend doesn't want a child, he will be gone the whole weekend.
Why do you feel you need to trick him into a child? Why would anyone judge anyone? You really need to think about this before you do this, this sounds sort of selfish, but I understand this is one way to make your life somewhat complete and maybe a way to hang on to a bad relationship...find the right guy and have the kiddo the right way...get married first and try that on for size first and then go this route...enjoy your time once you have a child they are there for the rest of your life and then some....and it's hard even if you have two parents on a full time basis.
Give yourself some time please!
2006-06-13 22:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be painfully honest here - I recently thought about doing the exact same thing.
I am in a steady relationship, happy, and I feel ready for a baby and think my bf would be a great father.
I just couldn't do it. I love him too much!
I did sit down and talk to him, though, it was really hard, but I told him how much I wanted a child with him. I hadn't even thought he might feel the same way, but it turned out we both want the same thing, he is ecstatic and we are trying for a baby. (Proving harder than I thought, but...)
Just try talking to him, you may get a pleasant surprise!
2006-06-13 21:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, that is completely, and totally selfish!! And I am not talking about just him....its very unfair for a baby to be brought into a world where the father didnt want him in the first place. Think about that. Think about how that child is going to feel if he finds out his/her father didnt want him/her. My advice is to wait until he is ready, or find someone else who you can love and is ready for kids. Tricking him is only going to turn out badly...for everyone involved.
2006-06-14 04:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? That's a terrible thing to say you are going to do! Having a baby should be something both people talk about and want to do. What if he doesn't want to or isn't ready? Then the baby might grow up with no father. Are you sure you are grown?
2006-06-13 20:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you see the story recently about the woman who took her ex partner to court in order to let him use their foetus's that they had created when they were together, but when they split up he withdrew his consent?
The court ruled against her, and in favour of the mans rights.
If you want to be a single parent then go ahead and don't use birth control but it's not right to deny your partner the right to choose when he becomes a parent and with whom.
The best thing to do would be to sit down and discuss this with him like an ADULT. Just because you have reached a certain age, doesn't mean you are grown up in the head.
2006-06-13 21:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not judging...but that doesn't seem like a good idea. Someone is going to get hurt... Would you really want to bring a baby into the world under those circumstances?
2006-06-13 20:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by nitemere11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your speech and writing I do not think you are as mature as you want to believe. If you want to get pregnant and can afford to raise a child you should go to a sperm bank. Please, for the sake of all three of you do not trick a man into becoming a father...there will be unhappy endings for all three of you. Good luck!
2006-06-13 21:44:35 · answer #11 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋