We've been together off and on for 3 years been hard but we've worked throu it she's hard to keep up with she's happy one day and next needes a brake. I know she loves me but she changes for a bit then goes back to her old ways what can i do to make her change. I love her very much and wanna make our relationship better. I don't know what to do i know i'm not perfect either. But any advice?
2006-06-13 20:12:52 · 13 answers · asked by JJ b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is what I have learned from my parents: if they do it once, they'll do it again. They'll promise change and then go back to a pumkin after a while. Though you may love the girl, and it'll be hard to do so, you've got to let her go. A relationship shouldn't be that much trouble. Or maybe you two should sit down and have a real heart -to -heart about your feelings towards one another..
2006-06-13 20:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(I can only assume that "needs a break" means needs a break from being with you. The only other thing I can think of is if she's bipolar and she has emotional swings/swings of energy that she needs to take a break from.)
You aren't going to like this answer, but she's playing you like a piano. Three years of her getting what she wants from you and randomly blowing you off at times isn't a relationship.
It's understandable that you don't want to lose something that you've put so much care and emotion into, but face the facts. The problems have not been worked out. She isn't making a contribution to have an 'equal' relationship where the both of you can be continuously happy.
You aren't going to be able to change this chick's habits. If she's been doing this for three years, it's not going to change anytime soon. Save yourself the distress and find someone else who actually cares about your well-being.
2006-06-13 20:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by randomnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but your girlfriend doesn't really care much about you as you think she does. If someone loves you and I mean really loves you they won't treat you the way she does. I mean she's your girlfriend if she has something on her mind she should be able to tell you and the two of you can talk about it and solve it. Breaking up with you whenever she likes, being moody and then happy with you the next day is definitely not someone who's considering you nor your feelings. We all have our days of being moody but that's not the way you act with someone you love.
Yes I know you are not perfect but let me tell you that she should only treat you bad let me say IF you deserve it. I doubt your girlfriend appreciates you much my dear.
Only advice I can tell you is, let her go and find yourself someone who'll appreciate you as much as you'll appreciate her. Otherwise in the end the decision lies within your hands and no one else. I hope I could help.
2006-06-14 00:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like change when they relize they could lose the one person that actually loves them and puts up with there bullshit. The only reason why she acts like that is because you let her, if you were to tell her that it was over and you dont want to see her again she probabley would be begging to change your mind. If your the sensative type that lets their women do what ever she wants then she's probabley trying to get the aggresive man out of you. The next time you guys have sex ( if you have ) you be in charge, show her who's boss.
2006-06-13 20:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by De DE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question is do you love her? There has had to been something about her that has keep you around her this long. I would just make a list of things you see that she has changed and then talk to her. You never know it could be something that you are donin that is bothering her. Just open the lines and talk. Good luck
2006-06-13 20:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off is it possible she may have bouts of depression? If this isn't it the next step would be to ask her about it. Are you happy? Something upsetting you. Because one thing ive learned that has taken me years is TALKING about your problem is the answer... Good luck
2006-06-13 20:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bud it seems like she goes down the same road to often sounds like your both getting bored of the relationship and its slowly starting to fade.Or you guys just need to take a time out for a while.
2006-06-13 20:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has problems with herself...why don't you ask her to visit a psychiatrist, she might be manic depressive or something...
or maybe she still hasn'tfound tru happiness yet that's why she changes every now and then then back again to what she was before...it's hard to make a relationship work if it's a one-way relationship
2006-06-13 20:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by skyegazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone like that and that's me. I was like that but I finally realized life. When she gets mad ask her why and tell her to talk to u. Tell her everyday that u are there for her no matter what. Keeping talking to her, let her know that u can be the one she can talk too. Just keeping asking her. I was like that too. but I got threw it, there only once in a while, that I sometimes get mad, but I talk to my bf. She ask her if she loves u, if the answer is yes, tell her to talk to than.
2006-06-13 20:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Stinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really trust her let her do with what she is comfortable. Don't force her 2 change just coz u don't like her behaviour. If u don't trust her let go her then she might not be the correct girl for u
2006-06-13 20:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kashish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋