Right ok heres a question. Lets say you've been dating this chick for a bit yeah n you guys break up, leaving all on good terms and still communicate with each other on a strictly friends basis. Now you indirectly find out shes 5 months pregnant by her "new" (new being the guy after you) boyfriend. Would you feel offend to the fact that she never told you that she was pregnant or would you accept the fact that you can handle it not being told by her and finding out from someone else. (just for the record, her step dad was the someone in this case). I feel gutted! That she didn't have the decency to tell me herself! Does anyone agree with me on that or do i stand alone?
2006-06-13 19:48:23 · 12 answers · asked by Purple.Space.Cadette 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh yeah that does sound wrong, but not in this case, the step dad was or is not the father, he was the one who told me she was pregnant. Her boy friend is the father of the baby.
Just for the record.
2006-06-13 20:05:45 · update #1
Most of you have totally missed the question! I know i'm out of the picture and i have moved on (just for the record im in a relationship and totally in Love!!!), so thats not my problem the fact is that if your friends with someone, close friends (not like as in best best friends, but close) and they fall pregnant wouldn't it be nice for them to tell you and not you having to find out from someone else? thas my question, i don wanna know bout DNA tests and quetsioning who the father is im not interested in that cause that has f u c k all to do with me, my question is about the friendship that is involved here.
Thas it. and just for the record, no im not the father... that would be a bit impossible... as im female!
2006-06-13 20:14:36 · update #2
u guys broke up already so of course ur just friends right now!
u dont have any thing to do with her pregnancy since its her new boyfriends baby!..maybe shes just shy? or maybe she wants u to be surprised and his step dad ruin "that" surprise...dont be upset..understand her decision! just talk to her and congrats her for the baby!
2006-06-13 20:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by nahleens 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure the baby is yours? Was she true for sure? You may never know the answer to that unless you have a d.n.a. test. Some women are afraid of rejection and some do not know the importance of having both parents. If you are an abuser of drugs or abusive, or have any personality problems that may endanger the child, the mother will not want you to be a part of the child's life. There are many reasons for her actions. Call her and talk to her, she will probably feel more secure the first few times talking over the phone. Never abuse anyone.
2006-06-13 19:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may have felt weird about telling you because you guys used to date, and maybe the fact that you were both girls and now she has a boyfriend made it weirder. i don't think she's a very good friend of yours other wise you would be seeing each other on a regular enough basis for you to notice something was going on with her.
i think you're making too much of this, but if it bothers you then you should talk to her and ask her why she didn't tell you. that's where you'll get the real answer any way.
2006-06-13 20:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you broke up, you are not in the picture anymore. She doesn't need to tell you anything because it doesn't involve you. Just think of it this way, you have friends that are married, do you feel that the wife should tell you that she is pregnant?Get a life and move on.
2006-06-13 20:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just act cool.
If your her friend then you should be supportive of her and she probly didnt wanna tell you cos she was concerned about how you'd react.
I understnd that ur probly hurting bcos you two at one stage shared a bond.
Just be there for her if you can...if you cant then maybe u should take one more step away from her.
Good luck
2006-06-13 21:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by samchic86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. ur saying that her step dad is the father of that baby? that is just ..... i cant even find a word for that.... lol.
another thing.. if you had sex with her within those 5 months maybe you are the father and worry about her not telling you that she was pregnant... but if you didnt then i guess it doesnt really matter...
maybe she didnt even mention it because ur not her babys daddy!
2006-06-13 19:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum... your relationship is over, get over it. About the pregnancy, well.. sorry, but the girl has this new guy's baby, and is not of your business, you're out of her life now and she has no obligation to tell you the news, move on with your life
2006-06-13 19:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't be offended at all. If she wanted me to know she'd tell me. However, by what you wrote she's pregnant to her own STEP DAD??? If that's true, then she's trash. Get as far away from her as you can.
2006-06-13 19:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer. I would want to know. Time for serious discussions especially to see if in fact you are the father.
2006-06-13 19:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by wandering_canuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this girl has moved on just like you and there is no need for her to let you in on her private life anymore.the fact that she didn't tell you could hurt i know but have you sat down for one moment and thot why she didn't want you to know?maybe she didn't want you to be hurt.if she is a good friend sit her down and ask her why she did that
2006-06-13 20:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by cyndyds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋