what do i do?

Question

I am 24 and I got married last year. but i got married to make my family happy. and the problem is that i am gay, if u have anything negative to say please dont awnser this question. But anyways i knew i was a lesbian before i got married and was in even in relationships. but now i am dependent on my husband he pays my car payment and insurance and for my cell phone. the rest of the bills we share. and i love him and care for him but i am still longing for my olf life back. and i know if i were to get a divorce i wouldnt be able to pay my bills and i would have to tell my parents who would be heart broken, and so would he. if anybody has some decent advice please leave it. thanks

Answer 1

Oooh toughy! Seriously this is a major question you've go there.

Okay first off, does your husband know? If not I'd let him know that you've got lesbian leanings. You might be surprised how he takes that.

Secondly, it doesn't sound like you hate the guy or are wanting a committed relationship away from him. Are you just wanting your old sexual habits back? If so again he may be accomidating.

Thirdly, are you only staying with him for finacial reasons? Any kids? If you're only with him to keep your bills and you don't really care for him at all then the least you can do is tell him. Maybe you can work out something but sometimes a divorce isn't the worst answer.

Finally, I'd really like to hear how you solve this. Feel free to drop me a line when things are solved, but in the end I think your best bet is to talk to your husband about it. If you got married for the wrong reasons and you both realize it you might be able to get an annulment instead of a divorce. You may also continue to live together until you move on. Though again, this isn't really fair to him and you obviously know it.

Answer 2

That's a hard one. I would say that you should do what makes you happy. You only get one life and you have to live it for yourself, you can't be worried about what everybody else is going to think. If you honestly know you won't be happy living the way you are now then do something about it before it's to late. And about the bill, haven't you ever noticed that things always have a way of working themselves out?

Answer 3

i personally think that you should tell him how you feel... him being a guy would probably be conciderate... or if hes like my bf.. no...
umm.. you should start off on a calm subject and eventually just work your way up...
this should work out okay.. but just keep in mind how much he loves you love him... so be conciderate with how you tell him..
maybe u can even work a threesom into the whole thing :D

Answer 4

Jesus forgives.
Don't divorce.