Me and my ex-boyfriend are now friends and we get along better. We have come clean on a lot of issues but there is something that is eating me up. About 3 years ago I was pregnant and had a miscarriage. I never told him b/c I didn't know how he was living in another state plus there were family problems.The stress from all of that caused me to lose the baby. Now it is killing me I think about it constantly. Should I tell him and risk losing him as a friend?
2006-06-13 18:44:45 · 11 answers · asked by Making Changes 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i would seek help froma counseller first...
Maybe if his problems have passed then it might be ok to tell him how you feel...
If he is a good friend you can trust that he will understand.
I am sorry to hear about your m/c. It would probably be best if you sought some professional advice...
You can continue to feel like this...
2006-06-13 18:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by sexy_surf_chick06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him I made the same mistake you did I did not tell my then boyfriend that I was pregnant just had not had time then I miscarried, it broke my heart but I did not tell him because there was nothing he could do. We married and I still did not tell him and it was always between us, I told him a full two years later even after we had a healthy baby girl, my advice is tell him if you are friends you will stay friends and if you don't then you have shared your greatest burden. Loosing a child is something that you will never forget no matter what anyone tells you or how much time passes for me it has been 6 plus years, but I will promise you this it will get easier but I do think you need to tell him, wether you like it or not it was his child. You need to be able to give your reasons though of why you did not tell him why you were pregnant in the first place and also be sure to let him know that is was a miscarrage and nothing more. It will be alright just be honest and give him a chance to share this burden.
2006-06-14 03:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by calraisin_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a miscarriage,u didnt abort his baby! just be honest and tell him exactly what happen..the reasons why u lose ur baby!he`s a friend now,not anymore ur lover..so maybe he can accept things that can possibly hurt him when u tell him! if ever he`ll get mad at you..then its his choice..that`s not impossible for him to get mad bcoz of the love u both had shared! but surely he`ll understand!
2006-06-14 02:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by nahleens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him for you to make you feel better. Not for him, you are friends now he should understand. And if you don't it will eat you and it could hurt your self esteem and future relationship if you continue to carry it in your heart.
2006-06-14 02:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u where pregnant but u had a miscarriage and u didn't know u where pregnant until u had the miscarriage and u didn't know how to tell him, a little white lie won't hurt...
2006-06-14 01:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT CAUSE YOU WILL LOSE HIM AS GOOD FRIEND I DID THE SAME THING AND WISH I HAD DONE LEFT THE PAST WERE IT WAS NOW HE HATE ME HE DONT WANT TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH NOR HIS BABY THAT WILL BE BORN NEXT YEAR
2006-06-14 01:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it off your chest, you'll feel so much better. If he's a real friend, you won't lose him.
2006-06-14 01:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by london_calling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him, you will carry it through life always wishing you had.
Be honest. No regrets. Take it to him, take it to God, and feel at peace.
2006-06-14 01:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by momof2kiddos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut.. Its your business..no one else has to know. Tell one...tell the world. Soon everyone would know.
2006-06-14 02:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by NightHowler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll fell so much better when you tell him. it's part of your life now. really, it'll be ok.
2006-06-14 01:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by fooz1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋