2006-06-13 18:29:36 · 17 answers · asked by keri gee 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
going through that now myself. let's see, arguing daily. no sex. no feeling's of love. he turn's you off. you think of other's alot. and many more thing's. you have to make a choice, do you want to waste your life?
2006-06-13 18:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should only separate and or divorce for adultery, fornication or extreme abuse or abandonment. There should be no other reasons for divorce. These should be the only indications that the marriage is over... If you have tried everything to restore ane work on the marriage and this includes marriage counseling then yes seperate and then divorce if there is not other option at all!
2006-06-14 00:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy this is a depressing question. According to half the answers I should be getting a divorce really soon. I married the father of my first son after I discovered I was pregnant. I went into it knowing that I made a commitment for life and that my child would need two parents. Three difficult years later, we have our second son and it has been mostly rewarding.
The fact is, infatuation comes and goes. But I made a promise to stay till death do us part, so here I am when the romance is here and when it isn't.
If you are a Christian who follows the Bible, I think it says that the only acceptible reasons for divorce are adultery and being unequally yoked (one believes in God and one doesn't, or one wishes to live by God's law and one doesn't).
If you have no children to raise right now, perhaps you should go take a month's vacation somewhere and come back (at least tell your husband first!) if that is feasible.
2006-06-13 18:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by glamourbusterone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very loaded question. I am sure that you will get a wide array of answers to it. Think back to why you married your spouse. Make a list, if necessary. Then, if you believe that none of those qualities you fell in love with still exist, or that you, yourself are not measuring up, then you know that you can begin to look deeper. Marriage is not meant to be broken up over money, hardship, illness, physical beauty fading.... The consequences of life should never be the end of marriage. But, the degradation of a person's spirit, certainly can contribute to a marriage's end. If you truly feel that you and your spouse no longer live the same quality of life (spritually, emotionally, in that order), then you might question the viability of your marriage. That's all I can say to answer, since I don't know you or your spouse.
2006-06-13 18:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by monica_dietz@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except for some off the wall things, most are not a sure indicator. Maybe a collection of these indicators will provide a more solid forecast. One that might be very telling is when one of the partners just odesn't give a damn about the others pains.
2006-06-13 18:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by leblongeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to be able to tell you line for line what to look for, but the truth is it's different for every couple. If it's lack of communication-then please talk. If it's lack of contact-make time for it. Try counseling, church, or some other outside influence to try your best to make it work. If you have tried all of these thing and nothing has changed, then maybe it's time to talk with him about a separation.
2006-06-13 18:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Home Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can't stand being in the same place with him. When you are happier without him. When he repels you. When you start having thoughts of being with someone else. When you try to work things out and he won't care. Then is time to move on.
2006-06-13 19:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by D_Lvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheats get a divorce, if he is lying about missing money, if he chats all the time, if he is staying out late wit hthe guys, if he has female fiends, if he doesnt help around the house or help with the kids, if he doesnt work or is in and out of jail, if he hits you, if he belittles you,treats you like crap, beats you or you kids, molest your kids,rapes you, does drugs or sells drugs, woulkd rather hang wit the guys than you. doesnt aknolege your kids or you, wont take you out.if he does any of those things leave him and dont look back, you dont nned him. if you arent happy then leave him. if you know it wont work out ever then dont hesitate get out.good luck.
2006-06-13 18:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know your circumstances,but before you give up your marriage have you considered counseling? I think it important to look at all options before looking for a lawyer.
2006-06-13 18:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by vprey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is none get counceling and if you both look back on why you got married in the first place you will take the necessary steps to make it right again
2006-06-13 18:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by sandra f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out now while there is still something left of both of you to find new lives.
2006-06-13 18:53:11 · answer #11 · answered by facelesschicken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋