so...i wanna make this all fit, so ill make it kinda short.
i love my best friend (who is straight) and i kissed her while we were both drunk.
i also like this girl, sterling. its more than a crush. its not really lust, but im not sure if id call it love yet.
and im starten to get guys goin after me. im les, but ive never done nething w/ a guy b4. one guy said he should get me drunk and we should have sex to see if i like it.
i think i just wanna let happens happen...in other words, im sick of the whole one bf/gf thing.
i kinda want my 1st sexual experience to be with a girl, and i want it to be w/ sum1 i really care for...but i kinda just wanna get it over with.
im also prob moving, and i dont really wanna start a meaningful relationship w/ sum1 if im gunna move...im not into the whole long distance thing.
sterling has a bf, but she likes me too. weve both liked eachother since december.she obviously wants sumthin to happen between us.
maybe ill just screw around. lol idk...
2006-06-13 18:10:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im 15...sry for not mentioning that.
2006-06-13 18:44:37 · update #1
&&& lately ive been hearing from a lot of ppl how they lost their viginity around my age, so i spose i feel kinda pressured...
2006-06-13 18:45:34 · update #2
you shouldn't feel pressured at all (although i think most of us did at that age) you should just wait until it feels natural for you and do it with whoever it feels natural to do it with.
2006-06-13 23:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by sooziebeaker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old you are, but I'm thinking early teens. You don't need to rush into anything. Please don't have sex just to get it over with, and the guy who wants to get you drunk and boink you is just a horny moron. If you're drunk you won't know if you really did enjoy it or not. Now, I'm not saying wait till you're married..you need to try out the goods before you commit your life. However, you should wait until you have an emotional involvement with someone. You're right about not starting a relationship and then moving, it will just make the move traumatic. So, I think the best thing you can do is wait. You'll know when the time and the person are right.
2006-06-14 01:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by dlacoski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'r kinda young to be making a lot of decissions about relationships. No need to be in a hurry to make sense out of everything at once. Over the next 5 years you will learn most of what you need to know to live happily the rest of your life. You are right to be concerned over starting something new right before you move. Moving requires your full attention and will be made harder by that. Your last sentence worries me though. This is not a good time to screw around.
2006-06-14 03:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by norseman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life isn't all about sex. Teenagers are just discovering sex, so there is a lot of focus on all of that. You need a loving father, a helpful mom, and friends who really care for you, not just your body.
No one identifies themself by their sexual preference, other than gay/lesbian. You are a girl and a young woman. You are full of potential and promise. Think about what your life could be, not who is going to be your first score.
When I was 15, I m-bated every day. Probably helped me avoid stupid mistakes.
2006-06-17 02:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first if you are this confused you should wait until you have thought about it more. second, 15 is really early to feel like you have to do it now. I was 19 and I still wasn't sure I dated guys for a couple of years and then I dated women for several years now I am 26 and I am about to marry the man of my dreams.
2006-06-14 11:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, just follow your heart and everything will eventually sort itself out. im bi, and have esperienced some of the emotions you are feeling. just make sure your first time (with a girl or guy) is something that YOU want to do and feel comfortable doing, having sex is your decision, dont let anybody talk you into it, or out of it. and, hey, if you really like this sterling then maybe something will happen, dont try to plan it just let things flow........hope thats understandable, & hope i helped!!!
2006-06-14 02:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by killc_ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big decision. Don't rush into it. If its with a guy there is ALWAYS the risk of pregnancy and regardless of who its with, there is ALWAYS the risk of STDs. You don't want to concieve or contract either of these with or from someone you don't care about. Life is not a race and in the end u are only competing with yourself.
2006-06-20 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Just Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly dont feel obliged to lose your innocence at 15 just cos your friends have so what?!
secondly NEVER get drunk and do that kinda thing because you will only deeply regret it in the morning
like you say i think its best to wait till you move and remember you have all the time in the world!
2006-06-14 05:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by everybody loves chris! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound too young to me to do anything with anyone. Don;t rush into anything with anyone, or do anything to just get it over with. If you do, you will not enjoy it, and you will probably regret it.
Wait until you meet someone that you care alot about and that you feel you MUST be with this person. This is the person you have to have be your first experience.
2006-06-14 01:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured. Hey, I'm 18 and a proud virgin!! Don't rush in to anything. You have plenty of time.
2006-06-14 02:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by *AstrosChick* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it happens naturally, in its own sweet time. i know its just too much to listen to people gloat about losing their virginity. but i think it'd be a lot more meaningful if you just keep it until you are ready for it to happen.....
dont kill yourself kid. you have a long and beautiful ahead of you....
good luck!
2006-06-20 12:39:37 · answer #11 · answered by Rainbow nation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋