Am I overreacting?

Question

My husband never knows how to sit still. hes always doing SOMETHING all the time. (no hes not cheating, so pls) like, he was playing cards all night last night with my mom & dad, etc... and hes going to the beach all weekend with my uncle & aunt and he didnt even want to spend anytime with me before he left. Shouldnt he want to spend time with me before he leaves all weekend? Its like he has ants in his pants.

Be gentle.

he doesnt do drungs, either. When i drink a beer he gets all upset and thinks i need AA.

Answer 1

NOT TO BE MEAN SWEETIE, BUT YOU SEEM TO BE POSITIVE HE'S NOT CHEATING. NOW REALLY, HOW CAN YOU BE SO POSITIVE? IS HE JUST THE ONLY MAN WHO WOULD NEVER CHEAT? HE MUST BE. AND AGAIN, I'M NOT SAYING THIS TO BE CRUEL. IT'S JUST THAT YOU SEEM TO BE BLINDED AND I'M TRYING TO OPEN YOUR EYES UP TO THE POSSIBLITIES. IT WON'T HURT AS MUCH, SHOULD YOU FIND OUT AN AWFUL TRUTH.

I THINK IT HURTS MORE WHEN YOU'RE COMPLETELY BLIND SIDED AND YOU'RE LIKE WHAT THE HELL JUST HAPPENED? WELL I'LL TELL YOU, A SEMI TRUCK JUST CRUSHED YOU, YOUR LIFE, YOUR HOPES, YOUR DREAMS, ETC...............

AND I'M NOT SAYING HE'S CHEATING, CUZ I DON'T KNOW HIM. POOR GUY, BUT HIS BEHAVIOR DOES INDICATE SIGNS OF CHEATING. IT'S LIKE HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE ALONE WITH YOU. MAYBE HE'S GUILTY, MAYBE YOU MAKE HIM EXTREMELY NERVOUS. MAYBE HE'S SHY.

THE ANTS IN HIS PANTS, WELL SOUNDS LIKE A GUY WHO JUST KEEPS ON GOING AND CAN'T STOP FOR TWO SECONDS TO TAKE A BREAK. THAT'S NORMAL I GUESS, AS NORMAL AS NORMAL GETS. THAT'S NOT THE PROBLEM. THE PROBLEM IS HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU. THAT'S THE BIG ISSUE HERE.

YOU REALLY NEED TO EITHER KEEP YOUR FEELINGS ON THE DOWN LOW, OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE ANY OTHER SIGNS LURKING AROUND AND CATCH HIM WITH HIS PANTS DOWN; OR YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN WITH HIM AND TALK TO HIM. COMMUNICATION IS A HUGE THING IN A RELATIONSHIP AND PEOPLE FORGET THAT. HOW MANY RELATIONSHIPS WOULD NOT BE SAVED IF ONLY THE COUPLES WOULD SIT DOWN AND FREAKING TALK THINGS OUT FOR ONCE!!!!!!!!!!!! GEEZ.

SO TALK TO HIM, TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL, ASK HIM WHY HE'S AVOIDING YOU. IS IT SOMETHING YOU SAID, SOMETHING YOU DID? FIND OUT WHY AND DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY WITH, AH IT'S NOTHING HONEY, YOU'RE JUST BEING SILLY. OR HEAVEN FORBID HE GET IRATE WITH YOU AND PUT IT ALL ON YOU. CUZ BABY GIRL THAT'S ANOTHER SIGN OF CHEATING. THEIR GUILTY AND WHEN YOU CALL THEM ON SOMETHING, THEY PUT IT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON.

I WISH YOU LUCK AND HOPE THAT YOU RESOLVE THIS ISSUE WITH YOUR HUSBAND. CUZ I FEEL FOR YOU, I MEAN WHY DO WE GET MARRIED IF NOT FOR A LOVE, A LOVER, A COMPANION, A FRIEND AN EVERYTHING? ALSO I FORGOT TO ANSWER YOUR ORIGINAL QUESTION: DO I THINK YOU'RE OVER REACTING? HELL NO! SOMETHINGS NOT RIGHT. YOU FIND OUT. TAKE CARE.

Answer 2

I don't think your over reacting at all. It's normal to want to spend some time alone with your husband. If he's not making the effort than maybe you should. Tell him Monday that you've made plans for the two of you on Friday night. Go out to dinner, a movie or what ever your into and explain to him that you just miss his company. Maybe then he'll realize how much he's neglected you with out even knowing it.

Answer 3

This may just be his personality as he may be very high strung with high energy. Talk to a doctor with him and see if they have any medications to help him slow down a bit and be calm and maybe sit still... Does he drink alot of caffeine? Was he this way as a child? Talk to his parents and ask them if he was like this and what they did for it. Tell you what go with him when he goes places and spend time with him. Yes he should want to spend time with you but you need to innitiate and spend time with him doing what he likes to do. Go with him when he leaves and hang out with him. Hope this helps you some!

Answer 4

The big question is, was he always like this? If not, something's up. People who are totally hyper, that can't sit still and go off on sudden unexplained "adventures" could have a drug problem. How is his hygeine? Are his teeth getting bad, or his hair dried and falling out? (If this behavior is new, coke, crack or meth as mentioned by someone already is possible) People useing these drugs get so addicted, they'd lie to God himself.

Answer 5

he may not be cheating on you physically but emotionally he is. Its ok to go with family and friends its ok to play cards etc. But it seems like hes trying to get away from you? why? and emotionally he is doing just that put distance between you. You really need to talk to him and ask him what is the matter.

Answer 6

Get up & go - invite yourself if you have to.... Get an extra cup of java - but make that extra effort to let him know that you want to spend more time with him.

Hey - if you haven't simply said "hey honey - I would like to spend some time with just the 2 of us..." then this is your time.....

Answer 7

Actually I know this situation sorta. My wife is not very active and I like to run around (Kung Fu, Gold's Gym, Big Brother/Big Sisters etc.) I think the dude just has a high metabolism. Or maybe he is drinking a lot of coffee. Dunno.

Answer 8

I think he should spend more time with you - but you should ask yourself whether you're making the effort to spend time with him.

Answer 9

Does he have any feminine tendencies???? Like maybe he's gay and still in the closet. Trying to live a hetero lifestyle!!!!!! Something to consider you never know..............

Answer 10

you need to lay down the law and tell him to spend more time with you, guys can be selfish in that way........