I have more than one child and do not get a long with my daughters father, I am worried that he will be able to get her for entire summers. She is one years old and I don't want her to be seperated from her brother that long.
2006-06-13 17:58:40 · 11 answers · asked by mz new booty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi. I dont know the laws, but I think that the length of summer needs to be defined between you and your ex. If you have more than one child, with more than one father, you will undoubtedly experience drama. Because your daughter is one, I do think that is pretty young to be without not only her brother but you as well. You are her primary caretaker, and you are really all that she knows. My best advice to you, is to schedule a time to discuss this with your daughter's father and develop a workable schedule. Most people have to work for a living. Is this father going to take off from work for the entire summer? Who will keep your daughter while he is working? His ho? His mother? His neighbor? These are questions you need to know and have a right to know. If you two do not get along, and will inevitably end up arguing, then the courts may have to intervene. Because you are the primary caretaker, the courts will most certainly favor your requests. Also, look deep within yourself and question your own motives. Do you want revenge on this "baby daddy?" Do you want to make his life hell? You have to remember that you laid down with this man and created a child together. You didn't climb on top of yourself and get pregnant. Therefore, he is her father, and a child deserves to know her mother AND her father. If this guy is a deadbeat, your daughter will eventually learn this and she may choose to still love him, but she will love him at a distance. Either way, he is still her father. Do the right thing, but also think of your daughter's safety and well-being.
2006-06-13 18:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont want her to be seperated from her brother? Sorry, heard that excuse too many times. You just dont want her with her father. Granted, a one year old for an entire summer might be a bit much. You didnt say if he has a wife now, which that could change the whole situation. At least there will be a mother figure to help with the child. But if its in the divorice decree, then he has a right to the child for the entire summer.
2006-06-14 01:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by okalredy812 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so at that age. but just in case ask a case worker for advice from family court or social services. If he is very admament about having her then make rules. Always have rules. and set a time limit at 1 year they need their mom and also how much has the father participated in her care and visting etc. I think a whole summer is to much. Start out with short periods and keep in contact frequently.
2006-06-14 01:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by soeur_deux_de_ny2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way of getting a good idea is to consult with an attorney who does divorce work in the courthouse that will be deciding the custody/visitation issue. He/she would be in the best position to give an opinion as to what the judge(s) in that courthouse are likely to do.
In general, most judges are more concerned with stability for infants and young children than they are with either parent's "rights". In the California courts I practiced in, it would be highly unusual for a judge to order a summer visit for a one year old for more than a week away from the custodial parent, let alone three months. For an infant or toddler two days is forever.
If judges in your state do what judges I've known have done, my prediction would be a week at age one and two. Two non-consecutive weeks ages 3 to 6, and two to four weeks after that, with possibly two months in the future. This of course would be subject to a number of conditions and the right of both parents to go back to court seeking modifications.
2006-06-14 01:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by shoshidad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly...put your feelings aside about your daughters father.Yes, A daughter needs her mother, brother etc.. But she also needs that's quality time and bond with her father.
Yes, it has happend depending on state laws. But remember something...according to what you said,,,That you don't want her to be seperated from her brother that long..Well, why would you not want her to spend the summer with him.after all she is his daughter also. She's still young..by the time she is in school...you would have her for most of the year any ways.. Don't be selfish. Allow him that time...But as for your question, Yes It could happen.
2006-06-14 01:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by jttatum2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 weeks is the general rule in most states. Six weeks if you agree. No he cannot get the child for the entire summer. I live 1700 miles away from my children and I can't get them for the whole summer. Me and my ex get along great. So?
2006-06-14 01:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Texas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think a 1 yr old can legaly be seperated from her mom for that long...... talk to a lawyer about it, each state is different.......... God bless
2006-06-14 02:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you noemally waont get that long untill she is 3 or older but if you can reach a mutual aggrement then the judge will go by that Good Luck
2006-06-14 01:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you being a witch.
he pays child support so yes he git the child
and you have to meet him half way there. :P
brother bull $hit you don't want her to go.
2006-06-14 03:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by glennmettlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two will have to work out visitation rights in court ---
2006-06-14 01:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋