i wanna work very badley and right now hubby is jobless but he wants to get the job he said it would make him less of a man but i been home with kids for 4 years and i want to get a job really bad and he stay home ... he dont have a problem with this except what others would think ?
2006-06-13 17:49:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think there's nething wrong wit him staying home and u working. If u 2 have kids that are old enough 2 be in school why don't u both work while the kids are at school.. With 2 incomes coming in u would have a hellauva lot more money HEHE.
2006-06-13 18:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by ANC_40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing at all wrong with a guy staying at home with the kids. It depends on what works for your family, not what others think or say or do. Having the guy stay at home is becoming more popular nowadays. It has just taken quite awhile to get it where it is today because it has been the woman doing this from the beginning of time. I wish that more guys would stay at home with the kids so they could see how hard it really is and that it is as much of a full-time job as working outside of the house, and then some.
2006-06-14 00:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not about what others think. It is about what is best for the kids. If the wife can is more employable in the current job market, then she should get the job. I know several stay at home dads, where both parents are professionals, but the wives can obtain the higher paying jobs. It is all about the state of mind you choose to be in. Worrying about what others think is like chasing shadows. If you and your spouse are okay with it people will accept it. If you project guilt, then people will also react accordingly.
2006-06-14 01:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by kinzdo4bop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it makes a difference which one of the parents stays home and which one works. I'm a stay at home mom by choice, but if the dad can do it then I say it makes him one HELL of a DADDY!!!! Doing what's best for your children is what makes a real man, not just having a job and bringing home the money. Let him know that any person, man or woman, who can be with their children and raise them(not the daycare, if possible) is and awesome person....He has my support 100%!!!!!
2006-06-14 01:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Home Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you as a couple are good with it, then who cares what others think!!! I used to go through my life worrying about what others thought of what I said, what I did, and you know what? I realized that what it comes down to, is what is best for you, your husband and your family! I think it's great that he can be comfortable with himself, and be home with the kids and have you go to work fulltime outside of the house!!!! : ) You have been working, inside the home and at home, fulltime!!! Now the roles reverse, and so what? You're doing what you need to do, want to do and what is right for you, your hubbie and kids!!!
2006-06-14 01:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is anything wrong with that. My dad did that for about two years. My mom worked and I got to stay home with my dad. It's different then staying home with your mom all the time. I think that your kids might enjoy staying home with dad instead of mom.
I remember at first I didn't like it, because I was use to having mom around all the time. I think that your kids would feel the same way at first, then they will like the idea of dad being there for them during the dad.
2006-06-14 00:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by tiggergirl082283 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this works for the both of you and you are both happy together that is all that matters. It does not matter what other people think. It only matters what works for you and your husband. Go for it girl and let him be the house dad. I wish you both the best in this! Go out get a job and have a great time taking care of and providing for the family!
2006-06-14 07:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man. I stayed home with our child for two years while recovering from an illness. It was harder than working, but much more enjoyable.
His problem is that he is so upset and depressed about being out of work that he believes that anyone seeing him with the kids during normal work hours will think: "Out of work lazy bum". This type of thinking is a symptom of clinical depression. You may wish to consult with a doctor (you see your own doctor if he won't see one on his own) to see if there are other symptoms. Clinical depression is treatable.
Try to work with him so he can realize that people seeing him are not going to think that. There are hundreds of reasons why a man might be seen on a work day with his kids: And, if someone (who you don't know and don't care about, has a thought on the subject, they might think "lucky guy, he can be out with his kids" or "poor guy I bet he works the night shift and has to be with his kids during the day" or "lucky guy, its a Monday (or Tuesday or whatever) and he gets it off to be with his kids and works Tuesday through Saturday" or "hey he's buff, bet he's a firefighter with the three days on/four days off schedule".
2006-06-14 01:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by shoshidad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what others think? Do what is best for you and your kids. As long as you can provide for your household, and the kids have the parenting they need, you'll know that you are doing the right thing.
In the end, you're the one who will live with your decisions, not anyone else!
2006-06-14 00:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by thundernlightning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you want very much to contribute your need to provide for the family.Let him know that if he stays at home and takes on those responsibilities that he is working!It is hard work. Boost his esteem and let him know how much you would appreciate the chance to work and help out with money matters.
2006-06-14 01:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by mj2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋