I've caught him in the "act" 4 times over the years. 3 girls were friends of mine. the 4th was his ex girlfriend which whom he really Loved when they were together, and remained good friends with. He never touches, hugs, or even kisses me anymore. rarely talks to me, he's always in his office here at home. and when he leaves to go somewhere he just walks out without atleast saying good-bye, or I'll be back in a bit. I feel he,s seeing someone else, and I can't live like this. I do everything for him, he always kinda seems irritated by my presence. I Love him so much he is a good man but his actions and my feeling inside lately are really stressing me out. I feel depressed and alone, can someone please help me understand why he's treating like I don't exist anymore. I don't want to lose him.
2006-06-13 17:23:38 · 13 answers · asked by Vtownn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this person doesnt like you anymore and doesnt know how to tell you to your face so he is doing stuff to give you a reason to leave him....my advice: LEAVE him! no man is worth putting up with all that pain when you can move on and find someone more deserving of you.
of course, you could always try couples therapy.
good luck.
2006-06-13 17:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 9⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my husband. The only thing that worked with him was to let him know how i felt and when i got to the point i told him to go live with the girl and that i was getting a divorce. He lived with her for a couple of month's then realized how much he missed me and the kids and asked to move back. I told him he could but he had st ricked rules and still does. he's a lot better with me and the kids. But we tell each other what we think and don't hold back any more. Tell Him What you think and how you feel. If it's meant to be he will choose to stay. But there is always some one out there that will treat you better. My husband still plays cards but limits the time and we schedule time together.
2006-06-13 17:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by bb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lost him. And you don't exist. Leave him.
I am so sorry. I am so scared of a relationship going bad because of another girl or because of boredom and wanting to experience something new.
I wish I could give you a hug. I hate girls that become between relationships. How low can you get?
Cheer up.
Man I feel sorry for you. Hey if it helps your human and I love you!
My boyfriend get irritated when I am around and it hurt really bad.
2006-06-13 17:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, every time you've looked the other way when you've caught him cheating, you basically told him, "It's okay. Please, walk all over me." You need to put your foot down at some point. Why not now? If he won't change, you said yourself that you're done living like this. It's either he changes and you don't lose him (unlikely!!) or he refuses and you lose the 200 pound weight around your neck. Loss sucks, but you could gain something that is way better than he is; self respect.
2006-06-13 17:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has emotionally checked out of the picture Hun. Sorry to tell you, but he had checked out when you caught him "in the act" the first time 3 years ago.
It is time to move on dear, go into counseling, and realize that he was actually cramping your style and you can do A LOT BETTER than that.
Wrap your arms around yourself and squeeze. That is a cyber hug from me to you.
2006-06-13 17:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need an answer, you need a new brain. You must love punishment! You are just a pound of flesh for his desire and needs. Dump the SOB and find yourself a man who will love you for what you are! You need to work on your self-esteem. Take a good look in the mirror and say to yourself i am a beautiful lady. Dress the part and be good to yourself and make sure the butt hole is out of your life and don't fall for any of his lying and Bull Poop. You must move on and find happiness.
2006-06-13 17:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait he cheated on you? 4 times? are you rearded? Im a male and that is deffinetly unexeptable
If a man cheats on you once its because he wanted to he wanted to have sex with another women he wanted to **** them and didnt care about you in the process stop being another stupid women and stand up for yourself dump his *** dont be another girl that will stay with their man just ebcause they dont wanan be alone which is what it seems you are from what you have said above he has no respect for you never has and never will
Hes an asshole and your stupid and weak minded he will always be an asshole but you can fix yourself
sorry to sound harsh but thats life he truesly dosnt love you if what you wrote above is true
2006-06-13 17:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 03:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's waiting for you to do the breaking up, so that he doesn't have to be the bad guy (in his mind)
Don't you believe you deserve better? Leave him now and give yourself the chance to feel happy again.
2006-06-13 17:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counciling now before it is to late. Talk to him. Go to a phyciatrist. So something. Go on a vacation
2006-06-13 17:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋