i know i need to move out of the home and relationship im in, but im afraid to...afraid he'll find me and make me feel bad for going and drag me back...the seven yr marriage hasnt been good....though god know's i've tried...but im tired of trying...what do i do?
2006-06-13 17:22:19 · 6 answers · asked by mkg101carp 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in that situation before. I knew I should leave, but I couldn't (or so I thought). I was stuck in the comfort zone, being with someone I knew (even if it wasn't too great). I was scared of being alone and didn't begin to know how to "date". Eventually I realized facing those fears would be alot better than being in a relationship that was making me miserable. It would be nice if we could just walk away when we don't feel happy anymore, and when we know we should - but us women never leave that easy for some reason. It generally takes something big for us to realize it's time to say good bye (or getting tired of the same ol thing and realizing it's never gonna change). But the truth is - once we figure out there's life out there, and we go and find it - It may be a lil tough and maybe a lil lonely at first, but it's SO much better , and the mind body and soul feels SO much better.
I think you are in the "Sick and tired of being sick and tired " mode. You're almost there... Just realize you CAN do it on your own, and you owe yourself the chance to be happy (and things can be done if he harrasses you, and if you dont want to go back, he can''t drag you back ) Just be strong!!
2006-06-13 18:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was afraid for 17 years because he would always find me and bring me back. He was very abusive. You need to just say this is enough and I am not going to live like this anymore. NO ONE can make you stay no matter what they say or do to you. Find someone that can help you get away from him. You will be a better and happier person when you finally break the tie. Good luck
2006-06-14 00:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Know the feeling you just have to be strong pack your bags,any important papers that you may need, call a friend or a relative to see if anyone can help you by letting you stay with them find a job, an attorney and call the police on him if he tries to do something to you don't be afraid no more do something and stop thinking of what he could do, god will help you.
2006-06-14 01:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by chi29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your marriage not good if i may ask? Have you both been to a marriage counselor yet? I would leave and separate and file for divorce if you feel you need to and get an order of protection if you are this afraid of him or what he will do to you .
2006-06-14 07:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be tough, move out, move on, and never look back. You will be amazed how wonderful life will be if you go past the first step. Just take it one day at a time.
2006-06-14 00:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by drickdj9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we get enough, and only then, will we know it is time to move on....
2006-06-14 00:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋