I haven't heard from my ex in 2 weeks?

Question

I've had written about my ex we've been dating for 5 years and he I guess broke up with me because he hasn't called me in two weeks, and when I try calling him and asking him whats wrong, he keeps telling me it's not the time to talk, All I want from him is closure. Than this morning I went to a cafe for a coffee and sure enough he was there I acted very cool I took a coffee to go, twenty minutes later I get a text on my cell phone he says It was really nice seeing you It made me realize how much i've missed you that was at 9.30 this morning, so than around 5pm I called him and asked if we could get together and talk about whatever it is he has to tell me, and again he answers OK DON"T START WHEN I'M READY I'LL CALL YOU. We are both 35 yrs old Is it possible that a man that age could act that way. I know i have to 4get him but why does he say things that that he knows I love him and would be right back in his arms, I'm the one that does the calling, text msg him, I'm so f***ked up

Answer 1

This sounds like the classic case of him meeting someone and he doesn't want to tell you because just in case it doesn't work he has you hanging on the side. If he confirms it to you. It becomes real. Seeing you made him miss you threw him off. thats why the text. He seems to have the " out of sight out of mind" thing down. My advice stop calling, text, etc. He knows your patterns. You are being to conveint for him.This will have him approaching you instead. Right now you are to predictable to him. Mess with the pattern.Throw him off balance. He calls " look im busy right now can I call you back" then don't he will call you back.. I SWEAR!! tell him sorry I got busy. Don't get into it with him on the phone.. NEVER. keep being busy but say we need to talk, but I can't on the phone I gotta go now if he turns the topic, don't get mad.I know its stupid to play these games but this is the reality of it. THEN!! you decide if you want to put up with it. Confront him when YOU are ready. Then you choose to stay or go. Tell him not playing these games.
Know your worth. Don't be a door mat. good luck.

Answer 2

Either way you look at it, whether it is someone else, or some other reason, from where I stand, it is over. Here is what I would do.... Don't call him, don't text him, and if you bump into him, be polite, hi, how are you, then keep walking.

If my assessment is right, at least you can have it end with some of your pride in tact.

Whether he is done with you or not, he shouldn't be blowing you off like that. He should at least let you know what is on his mind and give you some reassurance or closure.

Be strong, it took me about a month to give up on someone once.... it was such a relief to give myself the closure. Good luck and find happiness.

Answer 3

Listen lady im only 22 and I can tell you that he is playing around! Whatever you do, DO NOT get back with him! he is 35 and still acting like he is 3+5 = 8 years old! Get over him! and find someone that feels the same way you do! It doesnt matter how stupid, ugly, funny, poor, or boring you are there is someone out there who will worship you! Find that person and treat them right. You will be glad you did! Then your 8 year old ex will be the one who is f**ked up! ... And if you cant respect that, your whole perspective is wak!....

Answer 4

You are the back up girl. When he needs sex and can't get laid by anyone else, there you are. When he is lonely and doesn't have anyone else, there you are. You are the back up plan, the good ole stand by. You are being used. Stop wasting your time sweetie and go get you a man that really wants you first, not as a last resort. Get some self esteem why your out there.

Answer 5

You've just answered your own question. He knows you will wait for that phone call or text. So he is playing on it. If you want to waste your life away and wait for him to call than sit and wait. Personally, I would say chow baby. There are other men out there that do not treat women that way. Those men are scum and the sooner you realize that, the happier you will be.

Answer 6

Maybe he's seeing someone else and when you call he's with that person he can't talk. He also may want to keep you on the hook in case it doesn't work out with the other person. Don't be that girl move on don't talk to him if he calls don't answer, if he text you delete, if he leaves a voice mail delete don't read or listen to any of his bullshi*.

Answer 7

Sounds to me that by text messaging you after he saw you and you did not adknowledge him he wanted to make sure you would still jump when he snaps.... If you really love this guy do just as he say's he wants and when you stop calling and wanting to be around him he will think he has lost control and be calling you... My advice is move on find someone who isn't into playing games with your heart...

Answer 8

It sounds like hes flip flopping. Hes going back and forth between one decision and another. It could possibly be hes keepin you on the side in hopes for another woman, but if that fails he still has you to fall back on. His reasoning sounds so vague thats what it sounds like to me. If you love him so much that you're willing to go through all that just to be with him, that I guess that is your choice. Otherwise, there are still many great people out there to meet. Good luck.

Answer 9

I think that if he didn't call you for 2 weeks because he was with some one else. And he's been with you for 5 years and probably wants something new. he still loves you. but not the way he used too.And probably does miss you but it is time for you to move on just like he did.

Answer 10

he is imature and i think he's goin through an early mid-life crisis where he thinks he's old and trying to pimp every girl on the block. i think he loves you but isnt ready to love you if that makes any sense. dont forget about him just leave him alone for a while and front like your gettin with other guys and he'll come runnin back.