should I leave my husband?

Question

I have never physicaly cheated on my husband but I have been talking to a guy for a while now over the phone. I really like him a lot. I do not feel like I'm inlove with my husband. I feel like I may had made a mistake in getting married. I'm young and we have a child (I feel like that is what made me get married) I have told him before that I do not feel like I'm inlove and he blows it off. Should I leave him? I don't wanna live like this forever.

Answer 1

I think what you have now are cushes and psychological effects. Slimmer down lady! Think where you are in now and think of the consequence if you break off from your marriage.

Married life is like that. Once the dust settles, the reality sets in. Also take note all these started when you fall in love with a voice over the phone. Is that realistic? How much do you know the other guy.

No offence lady, but you seem like you are not prepared to face reality yet. What you face now is just part and parcel of married life. Ask yourself what would have happened if you were to go with the other guy. Will you feel the same after marrying him and bearing him his child?

Don't forget, lady, you have a commitment to this marriage and your husband has also not cheated on you. How do you think your husband will feel if you walk out on him? Have you ever considered his feelings? That's your husband you know. Likewise, what about the feelings of your child?

I suggest both of you go counselling and think of something meaningful to do together to keep the flame alive.

Good luck and I hope for the best for you and your husband.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

My friend, think before taking any drastic decision. It is difficult and takes lots of effort to create something, even a relationship but it jus takes seconds to break it. You have not met this guy yet, so plan a date with him and have a one-to-one conversation with him. You will not know this guy completely on your first meeting but give some time to yourself.You are not in love with your husband but if you leave him for this new many in your life and then go ahead with your new relation and then later you realise that this new guy is worse than your husband, then what would you do.You cannot go back to your husband after this mess ! So, take time and think......don't be impulsive.

Answer 4

You need to stop talking to this guy over the phone!!! The more you talk to him, the more you want to talk, the more you expect to talk to him, the more you think about him, and on & on!!! This energy you are spending on the phone w/this guy should be put into your marriage. You may feel like you made a mistake by getting married. I felt the same way, however, what is done is done. Although I'm divorced now, I can say that I tried!! Put forth your best effort to restore your marriage. Talk to your hubbie and tell him what you want and need from him. Let him know that this is a serious matter and you will not stand to be blown off anymore. If time goes on and you don't see a change in your spouse, maybe counseling will help. In the meantime, please take your birth control!!!

Answer 5

Yes you are cheating, yourself, your husband and your child. Work out weather you are in love with your husband or are you just bored with being a wife.

Marriage is not easy, you have to work at it. And you will not be "in love " with each other all the time but there is a foundation of love there.

You will have peace of mind if you make sure that you have tried everything, before you give up this marriage.

Remember , you and your husband will always be parents of your child. Weather you are divorced or married, you must maintain a respectful relationship in order to have a healthy well balanced child.

Answer 6

This is your life. You are the one who has to live it. If you stay for the sake of your child you are robbing yourself of happiness. I would suggest that you really think about what you want in life. This other guy is not the answer though. I think if you leave your husband, you first look at yourself and what will make you happy. You have a child to consider. Don't jump from one bed into another.

Answer 7

You need to see a councilor, some times the grass is greener, when your not happy. You can't make good choices when your not happy, so they can help you see whats real and whats not. Give him a chance to make things better first. Good luck, and don't do anything to make it worse...this other guy can not be the reason you leave your husband. It has to be your thing, alone. No body else in the picture....

Answer 8

hey girl that only thing i can tell you is that may be you're confuse. How long have you talk to this new friend that you like a lot. In my suggestion you should take a peace of paper and a pencil and write down the good and bad things your husband has done to you, and maybe come to a conclusion.

Answer 9

you two need to get counseling. Marriage counseling. Marriage is a sacred thing, and I am going through marriage issues now, and it is killing me. but you made a choice to commit yourself to someone and shouldn't be taken lightly you need to put in work it won't always be easy it won't be fun and it might seem like you just want to run, cause that is easier but you need to work on you two, If after putting in a hell of a lot of work and you still don't see it ever working then look to getting a divorce that is why the divorce rate is so high people use divorce as a way to get out of having to work and communicate and sometimes grow up. Put in the work and it wont be like this forever.

Answer 10

why don't you and your husband try to attend marriage counseling. There may be some underline issues that you have not been able to express to him that can be causing you to stop loving him. He too may want to know what you are thinking and hopefully he can work on those issues. Try to save your marriage. Once you've tried everything, then get a divorce.