If a guy says he wants to open his heart to someone , but he is a commitmentphobe, is what he said 1st a "line", and 2nd a red flag?
He has been divorced for 3 yrs and says he gets lonely at night.
2006-06-13 17:05:46 · 12 answers · asked by smilingbluelady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy has already told you everything you need to know. He wants to have someone next to him at night, but he rather them leave in the morning. He is not looking for love, he's looking for sex. Don't tried to read anything more into it, or make excuses for him. Whether his intentions are true or not the fact remains, he's already told you his position. What's love got to do with it?
2006-06-13 17:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might be just saying that to sound romantic, but can't really back it up with a real relationship. It's hard to tell since I don't know him...but it kinda sounds like the person he wants to open his heart to, isn't you. Otherwise he would possibly commit. I don't mean to sound harsh...but it kind of seems that way. He might just be using you until he finds someone else. If a guy won't commit, but says that, I think it's just like what you said, it's a line and a red flag
2006-06-14 00:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by aidanmakes3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay there are to foods of thought here: 1. He can mean it if he has seen himself go through a lot of relationships since divorce, because he put the brakes on when it got serious and now he see he is lonely.
Or 2. which I'm sorry to say I don't believe men are usually that deep in analyzing themselves as far as one. He has seen this line work very well and uses it to his advantage.
My advice tread lightly here. Actions speak louder than words. Don't move fast and keep your eyes open.
2006-06-14 00:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by maryneis01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be scared of a committed yes, but it really sounds like he doesn't want to deal with his past and move on. If he wants his cake and eat it too then yes, he wants 'one night stands'. If what you are looking for is a committment, you will not find it with this guy, at least not where he is at in his life right now.
2006-06-14 00:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by faith4ricknlisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where he is coming from but to me he is just looking for one thing and it is sex. He is lonely and wants to fill that void. If he is affraid of commitment than dont even start a relationship with him until he gets help and counseling and changes this problem. This is probably why he lost his first wife to begin with!
2006-06-14 06:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he wants a physical relationship, but is still not ready to commit because of the divorce.
2006-06-14 00:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes been divorced 3 yrs and will never do that again ,sound lik hes looking for pity sex, and thats all he wants. trust me ive been there
2006-06-14 00:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by anissia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.Don't rush into things just yet. Wait for more obvious signs.
2006-06-14 00:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by M.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to just be a bootie call. if you want to make sure if he likes you make him show it in other ways. sounds like he wants to get laid.
2006-06-14 00:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.... and he miss having a companion.
2006-06-14 00:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋