See... I met this guy online when I was in high school, he became something like my older brother. I asked for advice all the time, about my crushes, school, everything... he even started giving advice to my best friend as well!!. He got a gf, got married and had a baby girl, and we kept the friendship, nothing to fear about... after a time, he moved to the US with his family and stopped signing in. Then, about a year later, he signed in again.. updated, and still normal.. but one day, he started seriously to hit on me, I tried to take it as a joke (a really bizarre joke, because he didn't do that before)... on the next day, he told me he wanted the divorce, and he would like to meet me, that he wanted to kiss me since the first time we chatted!!!!!, and that he wasn't joking the day before. I clearly told him that I was sorry, but I would never have anything to do with a married man, and I have never been attracted to him.
2006-06-13 16:58:23 · 12 answers · asked by ma_isa 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course, the next time i saw him online, I just didn't feel like chatting with him. He said hello and apologized, he said he talked to his wife and everything was allright agan, I COULDN'T BE HAPPIER!!.. Then, I tried to pretend nothing happened, tried to be normal, but just couldn't... then he tried to send me some pics.. of his.. hum... "buddy"... yuk!! I was disgusted, obviously I stopped talking to him at all and then he tries to pretend nothing happened.
Of course, I haven't talked to him since then... but tell me... is it normal?? are all guys this way???
2006-06-13 17:09:39 · update #1
No, I wouldn't do anything... married or not, he's not my type, in the first place
2006-06-13 17:10:31 · update #2
Damn... I've been shy my whole life, now I'm more afraid of guys than ever... just feell like can't trust none of them
2006-06-13 20:44:59 · update #3
Yes if you keep it that way. It takes 2 to tango and as long as you keep it platonic then it will remain that way.
However, if he tries to take it to another level that you are not comfortable with then you will have to speak with him and be clear about your intensions, if he respects you he will back off, If he does not he will do it again, then you will have to make the decision to walk away from the relationship as its not mutually respectful and he is not willing to adhere to the boundaries that you have put in place.
Be wary of men who speak negatively about the women in their lives, the stories are told with a specific agenda in mind and that is to get you vunlerable and accessible.
In all things know your worth.
2006-06-13 17:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Virtuous 3 · 9⤊ 2⤋
To answer your question, yes it is almost impossible to have that type of a relationship with a guy. To have an innocent relationship with a guy, you need someone with a high level of maturity and integrity and that is hard to find. Especially since most guys end up becoming friends with a girl because they were probably attracted to them.
2006-06-14 00:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by DNet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is quite impossible to have a totally innoccent relationshio with someone of the opposite sex. Things have a way of cropping up. If I were you, I wouldn't hang around a married man especially if he's hitting on you.
2006-06-14 00:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by isavegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to stop talking with him, he will only bring trouble if the future if you was to start a relationship with him and it sounds like he doesn;t care that he is married he just want to have a relationship with you as well and who knows maybe he has several different relationships......stop talking before you get into trouble....
2006-06-14 00:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all for me. I have been best friends with Shawn for almost three years. We have gone to dinner and I have gone to his house. We always have a good time. No worries about the other trying to make a move and that's how we like it.
2006-06-14 00:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by LilSenorita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the first time one of you crosses the line, its impossible, the innocence is gone. Do you think he'll magically put those new thoughts out of his head and go back to normal?
2006-06-14 00:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by bashyt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl. If he will do it with you he will do it to you. Never forget that. He is a runaround cheat. RUN. RUN. RUN.
Also, he is not your friend. He is a married man with a child. He is someone you never knew and thought you did -- as ALL online friendhips are.
2006-06-14 00:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by BJ M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-06-13 23:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by vette 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2006-06-14 04:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by ParisLand23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can have an innocent relationship, just be friends. make it clear though, you don't want any confusion in your relationship.
2006-06-14 00:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋