My husband is at my mom and dads house all the time and they all have cookouts together and they don't even call me anymore. Before we split they were all on my side and didn't like him but now they are all about him and have cut me and my daughter off. And he thinks it is funny that my folks are babying him.
2006-06-13 16:44:53 · 24 answers · asked by sm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not the one that cheated he is the one that cheated. He had me at home taking care of him and not only in the bedroom but i took care of the kids and the house, and he wanted his girlfriends too. So I took my daughter and left.
2006-06-13 16:58:06 · update #1
OK what part of he cheated on me and that I didn't cheat on him don't people get.
2006-06-13 18:46:51 · update #2
Divorce him AND your family.
2006-06-13 17:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE IS IMATURE and is playing a game. He just wants to keep hurting you because so many people get vendictive when going through a divorce forgetting that a child is involved and that a child needs her parents to communicate, for 18 years of that childs life after that they can hate each other freely.As for your parents who knows what he has been telling them but apparently they are believing him. You will need to visit your parents or take them to lunch if you are able to (neutral grounds if they both won't go maybe one can) and ask them straight out why they are palling around with him and not bothering with you their flesh and blood (those words would make them think). If they can''t accomidate you and see your side you may have to just let them go be with him (but don't cut them off) for a while eventually they will see your side, just don't ever lose this hope because they are your parents. Eventually he will do something against their approval and they will want you then. Good Luck
2006-06-14 00:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by theresa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I got divorced my mother seemed to take my ex's side a lot. This was very hurtful to me although she didn't know I felt that way about her input. In the end she has become so supportive of me and my decision to be single again. The best advice that I can give you is to let it go for now. Stop worrying yourself about how you can prove that "he is the bad guy" or that it's not all your fault. In the end, your parents will see his true colors if there are any to be shown. I would go to them before letting this go and discuss with them how hurt you are feeling. Tell them that during this time, you need them not to take sides but be supportive because this is a difficult transition for you both!!! Why can't hubbie let go of your family??? He knows this is hurting you and continues to flaunt his relationship w/your parents in your face. He is being spiteful and hopefully in time he see this is wrong. You can't make him see it though so don't try!! After you talk w/your parents if you still don't see any results, YOU'VE DONE YOUR PART. Stay in prayer and move on!!!
2006-06-13 23:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by larozz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for a long time to a very abusive man. When I finally got the curious to leave him my sister tried to talk me out of it. She kept saying what a nice guy he was. She even told the family what a mistake I was making. They sided with her. That was 7 years ago and I have only spoken to her twice. Your family didn't have to live with your husband, you did. I wouldn't lose any sleep over what your family says or does. Blood isn't always thicker than water. Make a new life for you and your daughter, with or without your family by your side. Good luck.
2006-06-14 00:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is using your family to hurt you and your daughter.
He is a SICK man to do something like that.
What ever you don't go back with him just because of that.
Don't worry about it too much. It will eventually blow over.
Eventually your family will see what he is up to and get sick of him. Not to mention that they will start to miss you and your daughter.
Your the real family member, he can not ever take that away.
He will also get tired of hanging with your family. Especially if and when he realizes that you two are never getting back together.
It will also be impossible for him to date anyone if he continues to hang with them. No other woman is going to put up with that.
So, relax and be patient. It may take some time, but it will all work out in the end to your favor.
2006-06-13 23:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That must hurt you a lot. You are their child. I would ask how they would feel if their mom and dad did that to them. Family should stick together.I have to say you have a real bad rap there. Don't let them know it is bothering you. Try to be you ex hubby's friend because one you have a child together,and two it will help you get your family back. Good Luck ! I'm sorry that you have to Indore this.
2006-06-13 23:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mary M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he thinks it's fuinny. He is getting you back. IF you go anyway he will in all liklihood not be there long. Take your child and go otherwise to your parents anyway. He is getting all his talk told and you are not.
Of course there is the problem of WHY you split two to start with. If that is your fault then it won't help. If you ran it off in the ditch then try to get it back on the road. If he did -- go to your family's house and reclaim your family.
2006-06-13 23:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by BJ M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be taking sides, and family should always be family. Weather you are separating, divorcing, or what not, every one needs emotional support during this critical period of adjustment. There is no right or wrong in a divorce, only shattered LIVES.
2006-06-13 23:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by skycloud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your parents what the hell is wrong with them, tell them he cheated on you,ask them do they think thats ok should you have turned the other cheek and let it happen again and again. ask your mom if dad has ever cheated on her see what she says. after you talk to them stop calling them let them take his side, im sure in time they will see how much of an asshole he really is ,and they will miss you
2006-06-14 04:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U told U'r family right? The family could tell U the reason Y they treat U like this N him like this. I'd ask them Y they make me feel like a outcast. Tell them that family should B 4ever N should resolve things like this. No family member should feel like they R an outcast 2 thier family!
2006-06-13 23:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your parents about how you feel about it all. and do they know that he was the one that cheated. you should sit down with your parents and have a conversation if you aren't saying anything to them or only coming to them going off then they might not truly know how you feel or understand it.... and as for him screw him tell him you want him to keep his distance and if he doesn't then there is nothing else you can do.
2006-06-14 00:07:36 · answer #11 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋