2006-06-13 16:43:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STOP reading most of these answers!!!!!!!!
Was your wife ever molested or raped? That is the biggest factor.
That you have loved your wife beyond not making love is something to be commended for. You're a man above and dont let this sarcasm flowing here further denigrate you.
Many marriages are happy without the lovemaking-if thats whats agreed upon, so dont be turned by theses answers.
However, to get this out to you and hopefully have something of worth to say to you, I'm going to make this short.
It is possible, and quite likely she's been abused or molested.
Just check it out with her and a therapist.
Gotta go...these knuckleheads...
PS God Bless
NO, THEY'RE NOT ALL KNUCKLEHEADS
2006-06-13 17:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by baghmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key to this area. Also looking at stress, job, children and other things that can make sex drive lessen. Talk with your wife if you already havent and ask questions. (my suggestion really know the questions before you go into this) And the big part is LISTEN. She may get defensive if she feels hostility or that you are not listening. Take your time keep the mood light and open. Also you might want to ask the question of seeking professional help since 15 years is quite an extensive period of time. New information that might help you to understand why this is happening may arise. Also professional help IF she is willing may include a doctors office visit to determine the possiblity of several factors that can contribute to this lack of sex drive.
2006-06-13 23:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are mean- Don't listen to them. I do agree that sex isn't everything. although, it does play a big role in a relationship. And, it could break a relationship up as well. Have you tried watching porno together? sex toys, etc. There are books and video's that you could order privately on how to improve sex lives. Or, in detailed. is anyone on any antidepressent pills? The side affects on those usually comes in decrease in sexual functions. If so, try getting off of it and sex would be amazing. If not, try counsling. It sounds corny but it really does work. Obviously you still love this woman. 15 years of no intimate sex. I give you credit. good luck.
2006-06-13 23:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is the longest dry spell I have ever heard of in a marriage. I know sex isn't everything but it does play a role in the relationship. Why would you wait fifteen years to decide that it is a problem? Counseling might help this one.
2006-06-13 23:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Charissa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you left out the real details, so in response to this being that you say it has been 15 years. I hope the two of you are getting counseling, because the question is, Why has your wife not felt comfortable enough to be intimate , and why have you waited this long to inquire about it? If you know the details, you should include them when you ask the question.
2006-06-13 23:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy ****!!!!!!! Did you ask her what she thought about having sex or when the two of you plan on having sex again. Talking about it would help find a solution to your problem. If she says she just hadnt had time help her find time but helping around the house or with the kids (if there are any). If she doesnt say anything is wrong i would be asking around. Anyone who doesnt have sex with there husband for 15 years may be getting it from somewhere else. Just talk to her and take it from there...
2006-06-13 23:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by askittleneedsluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to really talk about this. You need to be in a place where there is no distractions so neither one is accused of not listening to eachother. Thats a long time to be with out. I understand where you are coming from and in the same boat, mine has been 8 years. We have been talking more and getting closer to having sex again. Good luck
2006-06-13 23:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, but after 15 years I'm shocked you still remember how to spell S E X ! The key words are right there in your question "it has been over fifteen years" it sounds like it is over and time to move on!
2006-06-13 23:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you claim that you had not sex with ur wif since 15 years i accept it, but you have had sex with someone els in since now so ur wife. now try to find the reason of this gap between u and her. is it becuase of forced marriege, low profiel, lack of confidence and so many others.
Best luck
2006-06-14 00:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Counsellor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap. I think thats beyond a problem. How have you lasted so long?? Move on and find someone else. I greatly doubt she's gonna change now, since it's been 15yrs.
2006-06-13 23:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋