I love his fiance but I am really nervous for him. What if it doesn't work out. I love my brother and I don't want him to get hurt. I am also so nervous about how my family thinks of his fiance. I have a big family with a lot of oppions. I know my sisters like her but what about grandmas, grandpas, aunts, uncles, ect. What if someone totally screws up the wedding? I am not even in the wedding, should I take ofense that I am the sister of the groom and I'm not in the wedding? How many people are going to be at the wedding that are going to be mean? I am super nervous!Am I a bad person for having doubts?
2006-06-13 16:43:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, if they are going to be mean, they shouldn't bother showing up. It isn't the time for people to crawl out of the woodwork and be pains in the rectal orifices. It is about the bride and grooms special moment. Personally, I wouldn't invite anyone that wouldn't keep their disgruntlement to themselves.
Unless you are close to the bride, no you shouldn't be offended if you aren't in the wedding.
As far as being nervous or having doubts, no, you care about your brother and you don't want to see him hurting, but you also have to remember that it is his choice who he chooses to marry. Familys always have opinions, it is when the whole family has bad opinions that you need to worry about it. Think about this: has she done anything to hurt him prior to this? How does she act when she is around him (like she is in love or just tolerating him because she has no better options)?
Relationships have their ups and downs, and there will be moments when they don't see eye to eye about some things. Marriages are the same ways. I can't think of much more to say about that.
I wish them the best of luck.
Relax, it is his choice.... and if you try to interfere, he may end up disliking you for it.
2006-06-13 16:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rob K 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
why would they dislike her? has she treated him bad or disrespectful in any way, or for that point any one in the family? i would not take offense about not being in the wedding. they are a major expense and the few that i have been in a major headache. there is always someone fighting. you are not a bad person, you just care and there is nothing wrong with caring for your brother. if your brother is fine with getting married just be happy for him, and if for some reason it doesn't work out, just be there for him.
2006-06-13 23:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, but could not understand exactly what do you want to say! Can clearly tell where is problem? And with whom?
2006-06-13 23:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Milind M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes what gonna happen when you get married?
2006-06-13 23:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Guy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋