I broke up with my baby's dad 3 months ago, it was an on again off again 6 year relationship and I had sex with him today. Did I make a huge mistake if both of us agree we're not getting back together, ever.
2006-06-13 16:39:19 · 11 answers · asked by Lauren 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your gonna get best answer Rita.
2006-06-13 16:46:10 · update #1
Sex is like breathing. It's natural and people do it even when they know that there is no future together just because they're lonely. Personally, I would be very happy if having sex would bring you two together because of the baby, but you don't need to worry if you made a big mistake or not.
Just be a little smarter and refrain from having sex until he's ready to commit and be there for you 24/7. If he won't commit, then dump him and find someone who will take care of you both.
Give him some time to think it over because you just can't put your life on hold for him to come around when he feels like acting like a good life partner and father. You have your baby to think about too. If he won't be there for you, say goodbye and stand on your own two feet, or find someone who you and your baby can love and rely on.
2006-06-13 16:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Siddy 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
As long as you both are consenting adults I see no problem in it.
You both know each other very well and are comfortable with each other. That makes having sex pleasant.
You also share a child together. That makes you both connected forever no matter what happens.
The only concern would be if either of you are committed to another person. It is hard to hide things like that not to mention how hurt it will make some one.
In the mean time enjoy the friendship you two have. There aren't many people adult enough to be able to keep an honest, open sexual friendship without commitment.
2006-06-13 16:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you use a condom? If yes, no more babies. If no, lots of questions until next time Aunt Flo visits.
You're both adults, so you shouldn't worry about it. 6 years is a long time and not being with that person can be hard. Sometimes people return to old ways when they feel lonely or need affection.
I don't think you made "the biggest mistake". I think you just had a moment of weakness. As long as both people understand that you should be fine.
Good luck with your baby and future relationships.
2006-06-13 16:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Toybear_mav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how emotionally attached either of you still are. If one or both of you is still emotionally attached to the other, then yeah it would have been a mistake. If not, and it was just sex for both of you, then it wasn't a mistake. It's easier to have sex with someone you already know intimately, rather than find some random stranger who won't know what you want.
2006-06-13 16:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry i had one of those relationships and it lasted 9 years it took me that long to realize that we just were not ment to be together.as for making a mistake you are the only one that can answer that. but just remember this if you are not happy change it. change what is making you sad and change it you have a baby to take care of and you don't want to get hurt in the long run. good luck to you and you baby though
2006-06-13 16:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of the times when you have sex it seems to complicate things even though you both agreed that your not going to get back together sex can change things because it opens the doors to you emotions so my advice to you is if you don't plan on getting back with dont have sex with him
2006-06-13 16:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by mshwndiamondeyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like having sex is the only time the two of you agree with each other.
is there any way you can live separately but together?
2006-06-13 22:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's an mistake because that's how your gonna get on again off again on again... Find someone new...
2006-06-13 17:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by tracesyang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u did make a big one. u don't want him to start coming in and out of your life again at his conveinces. Plus ya don't want the kid to get confused and thinking u'r getting back together. that's to hard to try to explain to them.
2006-06-13 16:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by jus_wondirn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you didn't use protection....you still have needs and are probably still attracted to him. just because you can't be with the person, for whatever reason, doesn't mean it was a big mistake.
2006-06-13 16:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋