My husband of 15 years arranged it so I don't have an interest in our home. Wants to give directly to our son?

Question

He grew up in this home. We've owned several homes together in the past. We purchased this one a year and a half ago directly from his parents. They're basically the bank and we pay them. There isn't anything recorded as of yet (because of this disagreement.) He wants it so that I never have an interest in the home, as the payoff will come at his parents' deaths' with his inheritance money. Since it will be an inheritance, and thus HIS money, he wants to own the home on his own, and if he dies, leave it to our son (15). He says he can give me a life estate or something similar. I feel this is unfair, and wouldn't have agreed to move here had I known his plan. Now he won't move. I've lost faith in him and in his trust in me, and feel the 15 years I've given him have been wasted. I'd rather live in a small house somewhere that is OURS than in this big house that I feel I'm treated as a second-class citizen in. It hurts me daily. I even resent his family for thinking this is okay. Thanks.

Answer 1

Not only is he, but his family sounds off their @ss. A marriage is a partnership, 50/50 you both should get half of the assets no matter whose parents it came from. I'm sure you wish he could just see it your way, (the correct way) but sometimes things have to get messy. You can hire an attorney because even if he says he owns the property on his own, and it's his name on the documents, you legally are entitled to half of it (depending on which state you reside) I am sorry to hear that you husband is being extremely insensitive to the subject but it is a big deal and you should let him know that if he doesn't give you half of what your entitled, you will make sure you get it by hiring an attorney.

Answer 2

I think you should invest YOUR money into buying a vacation property somewhere, or just another house in the same area you live in- you could rent it out if you like. Make it abundantly clear that you feel forced to buy another house because you wouldn't want to intrude on your son in his newly inherited house once your husband passes away. Maybe when he sees you go to such great lengths to obtain the dignity he stole away from you he might reach a compromise? 50/50 or something? Or the house is yours until you pass away and then your son gets it? I think that's how it should work. My husband actually talked once about putting his MOTHER on his life insurance policy as 50/50 with ME! We have 2 children together too, but I stood up and told him how I felt about that. He's never once mentioned anything about that again! You could try just being firm, and telling him how it makes you feel and what he's putting you through.

Answer 3

I suspect you know the answer: your marriage is in deep trouble, and this is not the only issue between you. Time for a meeting: he needs to be told, directly and clearly, exactly how you feel. The two of you need to decide whether the marriage is worth saving. If so, go for counselling. I suspect, however, that this guy is gonna say "deal with it". In that case, go directly to a lawyer and learn your rights regarding property in your state. Said rights do vary, but you should have some claim to property acquired while married to this guy. At any rate, whether or not you choose to leave him, you still should see a lawyer and learn what your rights and responsibilities are. You don't want Mister Wonderful to drop dead on you and leave everything to someone else. After fifteen years, he owes you, whether he wants to admit it or not. But it's very unlikely that you WON'T have to fight for what's yours. So get right on it - tomorrow!

Answer 4

Quick Claim Deed.

Answer 5

i agree with you. the house should go to u if something was to happen to your husband. than when u die the house goes to your son. could it be your husband is thinking of getting a divorce. i would sit him down and try to talk it over with him. there just might be more to it than he is saying. good luck to ya!!

Answer 6

I think your being very selfish in this matter.