am 20 am not much of a god fearing person... i can't tottaly believe...i can't be like those people who spend their lives in boring church groups and won't say bad words.etc..i met a woman like this in her early 40's....i mean i'll talk to her and be her friend but she sort of try to force me to be like her...i try to be careful what i say around her because of her god-fearing ways...i like rap music but of course she don't so i can't talk about rap to her...but i try to talk about the things she like..i feel like i try a lot to please her but for some reason she thinks that i don't have god in my life or something..she gives me a bunch of books to read..she bought me a bible as a present....i moved so right now she's trying to find me a church in my area....she has kids but it seems like she don't pressuring her kids like this..i mean her daughter looks worst than i am...what the hell is wrong with these people...she trying to change me into someone am not..shoud i stop talking 2 her?
2006-06-13 16:25:41 · 12 answers · asked by **sweetbabe** 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i met this lady where i use to work
2006-06-13 16:31:38 · update #1
Be Yourself. Talk to her about things that interest you also, don't just worry about what she wants to talk about, and see how she reacts. It could be that she feels she failed with her daughter and is trying to redeem herself by saving you. If you talk to her about the things that interest you, you will let her know you are her friend and not just another soul to redeem.
2006-06-13 16:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, two things
1. theres a reason she's in your life
2. U should have a talk with her
Tell her that as much as u respect that she's a church going person u rather her not try to force u to become one too and u will don't it when ur ready and if she can't respect thats after u tell her this then u may have to end the friendship
2006-06-13 23:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should not stop talkin to her i am the same way i come from s very religious family but they do not force us to be what we don't want to maybe this lady cares about u and is tryin to look out for u. u should jus sit down and talk to her tell her how u feel and mayb she will treat u as she treat her own kids and love u no matter what ways u may have. the new generation in my family is the same way as u are but the older generations still love us as we are and do not force us to be whatever we dont want to they jus fill as though we will have to answer to god on judgement day because only u can change u and ur ways
2006-06-13 23:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by lil lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honest and up front with her. Tell her (politely) that you have your own beliefs and would appreciate it if religious opinions/beliefs could be kept to oneself unless otherwise asked for input. If she takes offence, try to explain it to her by telling her to put the shoe on the other foot: she wouldn't like it if you were constantly telling her how to live her life and what beliefs she should have.
Good Luck. I've had to do it before (a couple of times) and it worked out OK...you kind of agree to disagree and accept that you each believe something different and that it's alright.
2006-06-13 23:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'v seen many situations like this they belive and even love god but dont want to spend there sunday's at a church. You don't have to go to church to say that you love god even the bible say's that and try to explain that to her. Tell her that your happy and explain her that you like your life that you love god but to show him that you don't have to go to church. She proboble think's that your not happy explain her that you are.
Love Venus
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2006-06-13 23:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't necessarily stop talking to her, but you might just tell her that you're not interested in her beliefs or whatever. If she's a friend or whatever, she should respect that. If she doesn't, then yes, you should maybe stop talking to her. That's how I dealt with those situations at least.
2006-06-13 23:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Spaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yaeh!!! Until you tell this lady that you are not interested in what she is trying to offer you she is not going to stop "helping you". So you tell her how you feel or just avoid her all together!
2006-06-13 23:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Yanni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her honestly how you feel. i know people like this too and they feed on the politeness of other people...seriously if you dont say anything they jump all over that and try to full on convert you.
HOWEVER if you say youre not interested and you SAY you arent by virtue of their ways they feel OBLIGATED to STOP pressuring you
2006-06-13 23:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by myxamotosis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek God for yourself. Read, pray, listen to that still small voice within you, and ask the Father to make himself real to you - he will!
2006-06-13 23:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by David S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u knoe, do what u wanna do. i go to church faithfully and its fun. i'd ask u to go wid me an my family sometime but id don kno where u live. if u have sumtin 2 say, contact me at poljrdumpit@yahoo.com
2006-06-13 23:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by poljrdumpit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋