Ladies answer only.....I need advice.....?

Question

My wife and I have been separated for about a year. This is because I found her having an affair with someone out of state. I know she is no longer seeing this person, and we talk everyday 3-4 times, and see each other a couple of times a week. Yes, we have sex, but not too often. I need companionship in my life, I am sick of waking up alone. But she says she needs more time to see if she can be with me. When we spend time together, it is great, but awkward. Please advise.........

Answer 1

shes playing you

Answer 2

I do believe that the advice am about to give you comes from being married for 26 years. There is not a day that goes by that my husband and I do not show some kind of affection for one another, every day we tell each other, I love you. We are both 49 years of age, and still make love like teenagers. I being a sensitive and caring woman would not and could not betray my husband in any manner especially adultery! I have known women though out my past that have committed this act and the answers are petty much the same. They are not happy with what they have at home so they look for affection else were she is holding on to you just so she will not be alone and until someone she really wants comes along. Why are you giving her that power over you? You must go on with your life and find that women that will give you what you deserve. Drop her like a bad habit, and gave your self-time to heal. It is all right to live alone for a while just to get to know yourself. Keep on saying to yourself I am a good person and I deserve better give it time and prayer and believe me that right women will come to you. let God be your matchmaker I did and I thank him everyday!

Answer 3

First try and examine why she had the affair in the first place that may be why she seems to be taking such a long time to recommit to you. Then see if that is still a factor now with the way things are between you. The time the two of you spend will be awkward because you both have gone through something emotionally tremendous...only time will fix that. What is important is that you both seem to love each other still of you are wanting to spend time together. You have a lot of decisions to make. Best of luck...and remember that a relationship is built on love, trust, forgiveness

Answer 4

Obviously both of you are still seeing each other due to convenient sake (sex & to fill in the loneliness), and not so much of emotional attachment. You feel awkward spending time together with her mainly because both of you never communicate openly. Would you still be able to accept her back knowing that she has betrayed you? Has she really changed? If you think you could accept her back into your life, willing to put the pass behind & start a new life with her, why don't try talk to her openly of how you feel. Seek counselling to analyse what has gone wrong with the relationship earlier. She needs to find out root cause of her infidelity towards the marriage, so that she'll never repeat the same mistake or take the relationship for granted again. Meanwhile you need to work on how to regain trust for each other & find out things that could spice up the marriage. A successful relationship are both parties responsibility, not yours alone.

Answer 5

Your wife is keeping a foot in each door. That way if things don't pan out with Joe Blow, she still has her claws in you. Stop seeing her. If you do, and she loves you, she will begin to see that in your absence from her life. As long as you make yourself available, why should she make a decision?
Start going out on dates, or with groups, and enjoy yourself. Let her see how happy you are, and then she also may see that she does not like the idea of you moving on.
If she doesn't choose you, at least you will have been out meeting people and getting more used to the idea of being without her. Waking up alone...get a dog a cat or a girl pal. You don't need to stay in a relationship like this just because it's harder to be alone.
If you just start occupying your time with things you enjoy, and not sit around and wait for her, you won't feel alone and you might actually like being alone.

People rarely change, take it from me, been there, done that, 3 TIMES.

Answer 6

John, when anyone -- male or female -- is dating they are looking for a spouse. If your wife is still dating then... well.... you get it. So, let her find one.

And, you go find one that deserves a good guy before you waste anymore of your life's time.

If she has had one affair she WILL have another. And she still is or she would be trying to make it with you. You are comfortable for her -- and she for you -- new relationships are hard. But they are not nearly as hard as life with a cheater is.

Been there. Done that. Wish someone had told me this back in year 3 when it first happened the first time.

Go find real love.

Answer 7

I think you two should sit down and have a heart to heart and lay everything on the table. You need to decide what and where and she needs to decide what and where you are heading and the true feelings for eachother. You may need companshionship in your life cuz you dont want to wake up alone. She sounds like she doesnt know what she wants you both are using eachother for the wrong reason. Either get back together or keep separated. but it has to be both your decisions not someonelses. Listen to your hearts. Good luck

Answer 8

It is time to tell her to .............. chit or get off the pot.
She has it all right now. She has you, she has her internet lovers and living the single life. With her secure beau ...you pursueing her.
Either get counseling and move back in together or get someone who wants a real relationship. She wants it all and that isn't fair to you. You need to sit down and talk. If it is awkward there is probably another person involved in this too. She has it all. Smell the roses.....tell her it is time. And stick to it. Seeing her after that if she doesn't want you makes you some wierd relationship and you can't go on. You deserve better than that.

Answer 9

U need 2 cut off all ties. Don't give her the satisfaction of having u (sexually). She is having her cake and eating it 2. U should move on, I know it will be hard but once a cheater always a cheater. If she doesn't cheat now she will later. Don't get burned again! U need 2 tell her u need more time! There r many fish in the sea that won't hurt/cheat or play u! U deserve better!!!

Answer 10

Oh yeah, you probably did type of bypass over a probability there. you've joking requested if she replaced into stalking you or some thing. i don't think of you've blown it thoroughly tho. you're absolute to ascertain her again on the bus or in the foyer. next time you may say hi and communicate somewhat. i does no longer necesarily ask her for her huge type with out delay. communicate which includes her some times to allow her get to understand you somewhat. we females could be careful lately, there are distinctive freaks obtainable and some are risky freaks. in case you understand all people else in the progression and ought to devise somewhat celebration and ask her to come back. It does no longer desire to be large. merely 4-5 human beings will be reliable yet no adult men which will be competition for you. BTW, once you talked about her did she do any of right here? searching down or to the aspect Touching or fluffing her hair Touching her lips or face Straightening her clothing Straighten her posture If she did any of those she is fascinated.

Answer 11

Tell her that you've forgiven her and put your life on hold, but now you're filing for divorce. If it doesn't wake her up, get rid of her. But like someone else said, "once a cheater always a cheater" is pretty dang accurate. If it's awkward to be with her, that's your head telling you something AIN'T RIGHT!!! Move on, even though it's hard. Don't be used by other people if you know about it.