My ex-husband hardly has anytime to spend with his son and has a problem keeping up to date on his child support. It is simply out of sight, out of mind?
2006-06-13 16:13:18 · 6 answers · asked by dolcegotico 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, maybe I need to repharse this since I am making people think I am judging him. I am a full time Mother. This means I have my son every day and have been there for him since the day he was born. My exhusband is constantly coming up with excuses why he can't see him and that he's too busy. So yes, I do judge him and I have every right to. Unless you are in the custodial parenting spot and you see first hand how a vacant parent affects your child, don't tell me not to judge. I am doing both jobs here and seeing dissapointment in my son's eyes is not something I will overlook.
2006-06-13 16:25:09 · update #1
You defined the problem in your question. He's young. Men mature emotionally more slowly than women. He wants to have fun with his friends not be tied down with a child -- he's still one himself. You'll have to be the adult in the relationship -- and that means NOT letting him get away with "forgetting" about child support. Take him to court. Accept the fact that it will be years if ever before he's willing and/or able to accept his responsibilities. You cannot force him to love his child, especially if he avoids spending time with the little one.
2006-06-13 16:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by CarolO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, yes. Can you see about getting his checks done automatically? If he doesn't see his boy he's the one missing out, these are years and a relationship he'll never get back--but if he's shorting your kid on money it can make the difference between getting your son the things he needs and not.
2006-06-13 23:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by catlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel and how much he's hurting his son by making no effort to see him. It sounds harsh, but you'll have to play the guilt card to make him see your son. If he still won't, then your son is better off without him and i'd cut him out completely.
2006-06-14 00:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at your self in the mirror and quite judging him let him be a father the way he wants not the father you want him to be your child will see you both for who you are when he or she gets older you dont need to judge though.
2006-06-13 23:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Gweedo8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because any dick can be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad.
2006-06-13 23:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by messedupsingledad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because his brain doesn't fit his giant water head.
2006-06-13 23:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋