How can I stay motivated.....?

Question

I bought a new swimsuit to wear on a vacation that me and some girlfriends are going on and I tried it on tonight. I wanted my husbands honest opinion and when he saw me.....he hesitated and said....."it looks ok.....swimsuits are ugly anyway". OK, now I feel like I look awful in it. He is soooo picky. I have gained 10 pounds from my thin swimsuit body a few years ago and he won't even tell me I look good in a swim suit because of 10 extra pounds. How can I stay motivated to loose the pounds?

Answer 1

Did you feel good in the bathing suit? Its how you feel in the bathing suit is what really matters. If you want to loose the pounds then you have to do for you and nobody else. I dropped 20 lbs and my husband had no encouraging words at all. If you have friends that can help you with encouragement that helps too. I have my friends who cheer me on and that seems to help me. I wish you the best of luck and hope it happens for you.

Answer 2

maybe it really looks horrible and he is doing his best to not hurt your feelings.

Seriously, my wife used to put me in this position all the time. She would still dress like she did whenever we were in college, but she didnt have the body for it anymore. She is just as gorgeous as can be too. She would say that she gained 10 lbs...I know its more like 25, but she has a nice body...besides, I love her anyway...she looks just as gorgeous as ever when she wears clothes that fit her...unfortunately, she still thinks she needs to wear clothes that she could have worn when she was 18.

Give your man the benefit of the doubt. He cant say, "sorry hun, you dunlapped over the front...your legs look like they got beat with a sack of nickels....wow, where is the rest of it....you are too fat to wear that, etc." He loves you...cares for you...you are gorgeous to him...but sometimes wardrobes need to be changed...