If so how did it work and are you still togeher today? I want success stories of marriages that we saved by counseling and working on things and that has been put back together. Please share with us!
2006-06-13 15:57:31 · 4 answers · asked by Lady Hewitt 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, I had an affair and the only reason we are still together today is because of how my husband handled it. He was the hero of our marriage. We did not get counseling. See, it's a looong story that is very personal. The marriage was pretty much over, I was feeling ignored and unloved. I told him about the affair because he didn't believe me that I was seriously going to leave. There are other things that came up, but he forgave me. I learned my lesson, I knew what a great man I had married. He did not treat me like he didn't trust me, I did not give him any reason not to. I was where I said I was. He never accused me of cheating, and I never thought about doing it again. We have arguments like every couple, but he never brings it up. If he had not acted this way, we would surely be divorced. If you are going to stay with someone who has cheated on you, you have to truly forgive them. That's what he did. I know how hard that must have been for him and I respect that he has forgiven me. I know that this is my last chance and I know what I've got now. It's been 4 years since this happened and now we are happier than ever with two beautiful children. It CAN be done!! Good luck!! Oh, we are celebrating our 10 year anniversary in January.
2006-06-13 16:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by sophiensamsmom 4 · 15⤊ 1⤋
Yes i did hurt my wife badly at the very beginning of our marriage by being faitful for a short time online. But her and i both strived to save and work on our marriage. It was definitly hurtful and almost destroyed our marriage. She bought a book called the Power of the Praying Wife and she learned how to become a Praying wife and not a naggy wife and boy God changed her and he changed me because of her Prayers and the way she handled it.... She trusted God to work on and change me because she realized that she could not. She learned to forgive me and move on and to give me another chance. Yes by the goodness of God and a loving and wonderful forgiving wife with a Great heart our marriage is still together today and it is better then it has ever been!!!! I have never cheated again and dont ever plan on it either and with God's help i won't I have the best wife in the world to me and i would not trade or ex-change her for anyone!!!! She is a beautiful and Godly woman and she is priceless to me!!!! All women and men alike could learn how to be more like her.
2006-06-14 10:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to take time. Trust is just as important as love, and this has been broken. First off, the person who cheated needs to stop.......period. The person who has been hurt needs to communicate their feelings. Counseling helps bring out what actually caused the affair, (there are different reasons for cheating). So start there. Also, trust needs to be rebuilt, and believe me, this takes time. Alot of time. So if you are truly trying to save this relationship, be ready for a long road ahead. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-13 23:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by johnlawdog232003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-13 23:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋