I have a baby daughter and I love her dearly but what is bonding with a baby all about? Even though I love her I don't feel like I'm bonding with her. Can someone please explain?
2006-06-13 15:52:23 · 13 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
How sad.
2006-06-13 23:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Janeen 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You may be going through the "I DON'T FEEL LIKE THIS IS REAL, AM I REALLY A MOTHER STAGE" I went through what your feeling as well. I think the bonding stage is letting your baby feel secure and safe around you. like if you noticed when a baby holds you a little tighter. I guess that's the way of the baby letting you know I trust you. So even though you may not feel the bonding, the baby do.
2006-06-13 23:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by missnikki630 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think bonding is different for everyone. You are probably bonding and not noticing it. It takes time and for everyone it is different. I couldn't bond immediately with my one baby because I had a long stay in the hospital after. I can already tell you are an awesome mom because I read your answer about how bad spanking is and I am against it. Your daughter is lucky! Check out below.
2006-06-13 23:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving your baby is bonding with her. Play with her talk to her read to her doing more of these things may help you feel the bonding.
2006-06-13 23:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When our daughter was born, my wife felt the same way. She had to learn how to love a new member of the family. She cared for her, but it took a few weeks for her to really feel attached even though we strongly believe in the philosophy of attachment parenting. Now we strongly feel bonded to our child. The feeling is something like not knowing who we were before this addition to our life. Not knowing what we would do without her.
2006-06-13 23:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Todd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bonding is falling madly in love with your baby. Some women (and men) do it right after birth very suddenly; the hormones right after the birth help with this, but don't necessarily *guarantee* it. Others fall in love more gradually. Some women wonder if there is something wrong when they don't love their very young baby (or they don't love the baby "enough", whatever that means). But it *does* develop over time.
2006-06-14 06:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bonding is the moments you have with your baby when feeding, playing and acknowleding that you understand them. No matter how young a baby is, they understand you so it is good to let them know that you are there and eventually you will get a response back like that little smile or giggle, when it's time.
2006-06-15 01:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bonding with your baby is loving them. It's sharing moments and time. It's enjoying watching them grow and doing little things with the baby to enjoy the time you spend with her. Anything you are doing with your baby whether talking to them, feeding them, or playing with them is bonding with your baby.
Sometimes it takes time to get used to bonding with your baby. You have to get to know each other, it's not always instant with everyone.
2006-06-13 22:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bonding means to spend time with your baby-girl like take her to the park or get some ice-cream bonding is just spending time with her
2006-06-14 00:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by scooby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, bonding, to me, was when i breastfed her...we had that time together, alone, just us....that's what bonding is to me...whether i was breastfeeding her or playing with her or feeding her or watching a movie with her...stuff like that...bonding is just spending time alone with that person...doing things that the other person likes or that you both like...at that age, well, it's doing things she likes...
it's hard at a young age, b/c they don't talk back and let you know how they're feeling...they can respond by action depending on the age and stuff...but as babies, we don't get much love back...but by you spending time alone with her, you're bonding with her...she may be a baby, but she sees it as mommy spending time with baby and it allows her to see how you interact with her and how you show her you love her...it helps her to feel more secure with you and closer to you...she doesn't know what the word love means, but she knows by your actions that you love her...
sometimes i would ask myself if she really knew i loved her and then i would get a smile from her or a hug or kiss...that's how i knew she does...when they're babies, we don't exactly get feedback and it's hard to figure out if we've bonded with them, but just by your spending time alone with her, you've bonded with her and as she gets older, it'll get easier for you to know what effect you have on her and how close she feels to you...
2006-06-13 23:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by tigrisow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BONDING CAN BE FROM JUST HOLDING HER IN YOUR ARMS TO TAKING HER SHOPPING WITH YOU. IT'S THAT MOMMY/ DAUGHTER TIME. I HAVE 2 GIRLS. AND THEY'RE OLDER. BUT THE BONDING NEVER GET OLD. HOPE THIS HELPED.
2006-06-13 23:01:39 · answer #11 · answered by yulis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋