Do you feel the people that have the affairs really and truly love their spouses? What leads up to an affair?
2006-06-13 15:52:13 · 8 answers · asked by Lady Hewitt 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes i do feel that extramarrital affairs can really hurt and destroy marriages. They just lead to a life of unfaitfulness and hurt and pain and it ends up destroying and ruining the marriage and family life you have built with your spouse. Very sad indeed. I dont feel that if a person really loves their spouse that they would ever even think about doing this to them or to the marriage. Alot of things can lead up to an affair like flirting and lusting in your heart. Not working on your marriage and being unhappy in the marriage. Looking and adult movies and porn can make you lust and lead up to this too and so can online friendships of cyber sex and flirting. WE need to steer clear of all of this and watch our emotions and focus on being loyal and dedicated and true to our spouses at all times.
2006-06-14 03:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 1⤋
Straight talk here - you cheated and he is probably done. If I were him, I would be. The trust is gone and he hurts way more than you do - I am surprised you even mentioned that you hurt. You caused the hurt, he didn't. The poor man was blindsided. The only thing you can do is be an open book (if you get the chance) - what I mean by that is you answer ALL his questions - where are you going, what are you doing, etc. You show him anything he wants to see - emails, cell records, texts, mail, etc. You hide absolutely NOTHING. He needs his space, so you give him his space. He calls all the shots from now on for as long as it takes. That is how you work to earn his trust back and show him that you love him. It will not be easy nor should it be. And there are no guarantees. You mention showing him love and letting go - I am confused about that.
2016-03-15 03:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages break down from affairs because trust is broken and because the adulterer has disrespected their spouse. I believe that adulterers say that they love their spouses, but really don't. There are many, many excuses used for adultery: depressed, not in love anymore, it just happened, couldn't help themselves, not getting it at home or not getting enough at home, and on and on and on. But, NO excuse is a valid reason for cheating. IF someone wants to cheat, they should break up with/leave the person they are with, then go have their 'fun.'
2006-06-13 18:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that have affairs really love, care about, want the best thing for...THEMSELVES. They care only about themselves. They don't care about thier spouses, their childrens, their families or friends.
People make all sorts of excuses to defend their behaviors, but there is no excuse to cheat. GET DIVORCED. No wife or husband deserves to have their spouse out bump'n uglies with someone else. Oh, and I don't want to hear that it didnt mean anything...and it was emotional and the physical part didnt matter. People dont have sex by accident. People have sex because they want to.
having an affair?
2006-06-13 16:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair definitely destroys a marriage, because trust is broken. Once a trust is viloated, it is hard to reagain, if ever.
2006-06-13 16:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Pirate's Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong with little fun why not life is to short
2006-06-13 16:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by shan-la 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all.it just add a spice on the relationship.try it .
2006-06-13 19:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[CING] AND [HONEY]. I HAVE TO TOTALLY AGREE WITH ON THIS MATTER THEY ONLY THINK OF THERE SELVES AND IN TIME THEY WILL FIND OUT...
2006-06-13 19:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋