Why do step parents feel that they can disregard the step-childs feelings in many cases?

Answer 1

how do you treat your step parent? if you are not respectful to them then you can not except to be treated fairly. if you do respect them then have a one on one with your father or mother.

Answer 2

It all depends on what type of person the stepparent is in the first place. Most people don't feel the same way about children that are not their own flesh and blood but on the other hand some people do. Just because someone can make a child doesn't guarantee that they will make a good parent. I have also found that most people who get involved in relationships with an individual who has children never wanted to have an instant family in the first place and only tolerate the child to keep the partner.
There may be another reason also. I've known many people who were not quite sure what their place was so they did not want to become too involved when it came to making decisions for the stepchild. They would often find themselves being told not to discipline the child or make decisions regarding the child because they were not the biological parent.

Answer 3

This happens in many cases. They simply do not feel for you like your real parent would. My daughter went through a terrible time with two step-parents, it is up to your parents to put the step parents in their place and if they will not do it you might really be better off in another home than with a step parent. Not enough is being said about what kids go through with step parents. Good Luck to You!! Hope you let us know how things are going for you!!

Answer 4

I don't feel that way at all. In fact, I'm more involved in my step children's lives than their mother is. I do know that several of my friends who have step children have problems with the kids opening up to them to start with or feeling that they (the step parent) are a bad person for being involved with their parent to start with and treat them like the evil step parent. I feel like I'm one of the lucky ones because I have a good relationship with my step kids.

Answer 5

I wish I knew...my dad had a girlfriend with whom he has a kid (she's 6 years old now & a pain in the ****) & she (the mom) thinks that I AM the mother of the child...she always leaves the kid at our house on fridays right after school & doesn't even care that I work & go to school & can't be home all the time to take care of her daughter...she always says that she'll pick her up on sunday afternoons, but never does (she picks her up monday mornings)...this really gets me mad 'cause sometimes I wanna go out but I can't because of my sis...she's really annoying and spoiled...I've tried telling my dad to talk to my sis's mom & tell her to bring her every other weekend or to pick her up on saturdays, but he always says that he doesn't want to start "trouble" with her, blah, blah, blah, blah...& all she does on weekends is go out with her friends & have fun...

Whenever I complain and/or tell her that I have somewhere to go, she gets offended & starts saying that I don't like the kid, & that I don't treat her the way I should (which is totally not true...) In addition, she never picks up the phone on weekends when I call her to come pick up her daughter (she has caller ID, & therefore she knows it's me calling)

It's really frustrating...

By the way, thnx for letting me vent...it was about time I did...

Answer 6

Many cases...BUT NOT ALL!!!! Some of us step parents actually LOVE our step children and DON"T like the word STEP!!!!

Answer 7

be cause its not their child and they want their own child to thrive not a rival child. take not that most step parents do not think that way but i think the man reasion that they are not biological parents so its hard for them to make a relationshit, especialy if the child is a teenage which is even hard for the biological parent.

Answer 8

My step father was not like that, he was like a real father to me growing up. But he's raised me since I was 2 years old, so it's probably easier when your younger.

Answer 9

Are you a red-headed step child? Were you ever beaten with a rubber hose? If not, you should consider yourself lucky... I speak from experience.

Answer 10

SWEETIE, I HAVE BEEN THERE I HAD A STEP MOTHER AND SHE WAS A # 1 *****.SHE GAVE ME AND MY TWO BROTHERS HELL AND BABIED HER THREE KIDS. SHE WENT AS FAR AS MAKING MY DAD CHOOSE BETWEEN HER OR US? AND HE CHOSE HER. WE ENDED UP WITH OUR MOTHER CAUSE SHE WOULD BEAT US WITH WHATEVER SHE WOULD GET HER HANDS ON. I HAVE FORGIVEN HER NOW THAT I'M GROWN BUT I'LL NEVER FORGET!