This guy and i have been friends for 3 yrs now and each year im more and more in love with him. He thinks im just a friend: but im IN LOVE with him. Eveything about him is JUST right for my personally: i feel that we complete each other, but he just thinks im a "great best girl buddy" he has ever had.... I truly love him and i cant get over him, how can i "move on" when were best friends and im head over heel in love with the guy?
Do i do a friendship break up: i wont be able to stomach him falling for a girl whose perfect for him, i cant take the emotions i feel around him there just way too strong. I dont want to leve his side as a friend: i love being his friend i just wish that i could be his love.
Please help im love sick and its a friendship! Am i doomed?
2006-06-13 15:38:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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He wanted me to break up with my boyfriend (my bf was a total jacka@@) so it was understandable, but then he started to hint if i broke up with him then we can be together: i said i like my boyfriend but hes so sneaky, my best friend response: well if you ACTUALLY breakup with him maybe we could have something Nice...
What the hell does that mean?!
2006-06-26 08:32:43 · update #1
I like Answerer 2's answer. I would do what she recommends, with ONE exception.
You don't state that you have proposed taking your relationship to the next level. You intimate that he likes the relationship you have as a friend.
Before you cast him aside, which I feel you should do, if he rejects the idea of a different relationship, I feel you need to have a serious discussion about the relationship. Let him know your honest feelings and especially about moving to a closer relationship. THEN, if he won't do it. Follow the other advice and stop putting yourself through the agony.
2006-06-23 13:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been exactly where you are and it is not a good feeling, there are risks on both sides. Some of the risks are; if you tell him how you feel and he feels the same way you do then you two might start dating. Now if that happens and then something bad happens between you two, that could ruin your bf/gf relationship and also ruin your friendship as well. On the other side as you said you two are perfect for one another personality wise and you tell him how you feel then you tow could end up together and be happy. I honestly think that first you should tell him how you feel about him and see how he reacts and if it is a good reaction then try dating and if not then maybe right now it is not meant to be. Now that is not to say that you two couldn't end up together later, it is just a matter of how you BOTH feel and you BOTH have to respect each others feelings on that.
2006-06-13 15:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sherry D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you aren't doomed. But you will have to be content to love him as a friend. And love is not jealous so if he finds another girl to have a romantic relationship with, be happy for him and wish them the best. Just remember, it takes TWO people to have a relationship. And if the two of you have a "best friend" relationship, you are blessed! Treasure it and protect it. Don't ruin it by expecting something your friend is not prepared to give you.
2006-06-13 15:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know what you've got till it's gone
so be 'gone', sweetie. he'll figure out what he has and he'll need you back.
and if he doesn't, it isn't healthy to let yourself be in a relationship where you heart is broken every day. if he doesn't feel the same way for you, you need to have enough faith in yourself to know that someone will care for you that way. then you have to find him.
2006-06-13 15:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not into you. So, accept this fact & just get over it.
2006-06-26 01:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rebornie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋