My son age 10 -1/2 refused! It was embarassing. There is no way I could have forced him to because I fear he might have felt like I was robbing him of his dignity or something! My daughter who is 9 was a little scared and embarassed but to my suprise she cooperated. The Dr. wanted to check their private parts and I can only assume this is a normal part of the wellness exam. Any advice or comments from moms on their experience with this will be appreciated. Thanks.
2006-06-13 15:32:25 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
i did leave the room when it was time for that part of the exam. when i got to the lobby a few seconds passed and he came running out shaking his head NO! his way of telling me i'm not going to do it! he's a big boy for 10-1/2. he is 5'1" weighs 117. almost as big as me! we have a good relationship and he is open enough that a couple of months ago, he informed me that he was starting to get some hair down there.
2006-06-13 15:54:08 · update #1
hmm this leaves me very disturbed. You poor baby boy! I would have told the doctor many next time, i never would have forced any of my children to do something they were uncomfortable with. Doctor's check lil boys testicles to make sure the drop early on like for the first 3 yrs, but if u were there for a wellness exam, he shouldnt be touching their private parts. You should realllllly look into weather other doctors practice this. I live in kansas and work in the medical field and i have NEVER heard of this. We respect children's dignities, even in genitourinary surgery where we have to see and touch their privates but we wait until the time is appropriate and children feel safe. It doesnt sound like it was necessary and if ur son was uncomfortable, you should have asked why he was uncomfortable , like in a private bathroom, and then explain to him the situation, if he still doesnt cooporate, find another doc he is comfortable with, and if that doesnt work you should start wondering why he is uncomfortable with his privates being touched by a doc, and i think u know where im going with this.... but children have rights to their bodies to thats all im saying.- mas for the other answers that were posted i somewhat agree but why scar the poor boy if it isnt necessary- btw doctors are human not god, and and there are som nasty sick ones out there, be careful what u tell ur child not all police men and doctors are good ppl.
2006-06-13 15:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not have let him refuse. He should have had it explained to him beforehand that the Dr is someone who is OK to show their bodies to, that doctors need to see our bodies to make sure everything is OK. If anything, he was probably more embarrassed that you were in the room, not the doctor. I would have given him the choice of whether you stay in or out, because a nurse would have been in there then. A doctor is not allowed to examine someone without anyone there to witness their activities. You should make another appointment so your son can have his complete physical. In fact, when he is older, he will not be able to play sports with out a complete physical-meaning he will have to get undressed.
2006-06-13 15:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by fixer of all aka mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm as far back as i can remember ive had to do that part so i dont remember refusing. Maybe you tell him its that or a shot he'll do it.
2006-06-13 15:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by J. Micro. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋