She stays out all the time with her 17 year old boyfriend and comes in at 5 a.m. Can this mother have the girl declared a juvinile delinquent and put in state custody-basically a jail--until she is 18?
2006-06-13 15:32:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No. Its the mothers responsibility to take care of her daughter, not the taxpayer.
2006-06-13 15:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by Savant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I read, state custody would be a lot worse than her life now. Maybe you should add in writing, in your divorce application, that she rings home drunk every night at 4 am for a lift and then makes you cook breakfast for her three biker lovers while she slugs back your tequila and watches cable at full volume. Don't forget to cite the devil-worship parties and the chicken-sacrifices.
A parent who would do that really must be eaten up with jealousy. Why bother with the paperwork?
Who needs the grief? Be as informal as this young couple is ...
Go to a singles bar yourself on those nights. Or schedule a ladies night-in with your neighbours and friends - try out new cosmetics, nail varnish, drugs, sleep over. Throw an Ann Summers party and make some money, now that you don't need a sitter. Join a local dramatics society. Take a job as a topless dancer - or let her believe that you have done so. Ask her advice about lingerie and body piercings.
If you make money from your new interests, greet her boyfriend and give him twenty dollars for milkshakes and cookies, and thank him for entertaining your daughter after school and helping her with her homework.
Why not? Sounds like you never wanted this responsibility anyway. You have a child for better or worse.
If it's worse, why lose sleep? Show her that you have better things to do than lose sleep over her hormones. Take a cell-phone, so she can text you if she wants to ask your advice about contraception, but make it clear that you are not going to call her back over trivial things like "What's for breakfast?".
Chill out, it's your place, and now that you have it to yourself, enjoy the company. Play the music you want to listen to!
2006-06-13 23:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't control your daughter, and she doesn't mind (like most 15 year olds) then you should turn it over to the authorities. I would rather see my daughter in a "home" for other children like her than in a casket b/c she was out partying until 5 a.m. Don't listen to these other people saying you have no right to do that, or calling you a bad mother! You are only trying to protect your child. In case you don't realize, most of these answers are coming from either teenagers, or kids in their early 20's with no kids of their own!
2006-06-27 16:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by alacaliwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what it would accomplish, other than resentment from the daughter towards the mother. It won't teach her to be more responsible; most likely it will just make her that much more rebellious and wild once she is released.
The mother needs to set standards for her daughter and enforce them. If the daughter can't follow the "rules", she gets no privileges (no cell phone, car, time to use the home phone or internet, etc.). If she doesn't like that, she can move out and support herself. There's no logic in trying to make her the state's responsibility, especially since the mother could have prevented this behavior by raising her better. We reap what we sow.
2006-06-15 01:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Spy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the mother has the responsibility...plus it would take a very poor character person to wish to hand her daughter over to the state...basically she is putting her up for adoption at a late age. I have little respect for people of this sort as they do not haul their own load. As for the boyfriend, she can have her doctor examine her and if she is no longer a virgin she can claim statutory rape as soon as he turns 18 and bye bye boyfriend. But as for her daughter she needs to find a way to discipline her. At her age that means specifying she is the law and there is no other options...change the locks, force a curfew...its extreme but its necessary.
2006-06-27 17:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by high_on_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the daughter is under 17 the parent can still give custody to the state.
2006-06-26 22:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by angelofjersey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask the state to take custody but they are so overloaded with kids being killed and abused they don't have time nor the staff to investigate, nor will they spend the money.
Try counseling. Sounds like there is a real trauma in her life she is not telling you.
2006-06-27 19:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by Grandma Sue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!!!!! R U F****** KIDDING?!? that is the worst question i think ive come across yet. its the parents fault for letting her stay out that late. ever heard of grounding or punishing of somekind other then sending ur kid to jail. and no the state wont do anything but maybe take away ur parental rights and put her in a better place.
2006-06-27 17:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by ttly bored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good mother wouldn't, a good mother would step up to the responsibility of taking care of her child and discipline her- not rely on outside help.
2006-06-13 22:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by brandijolove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can, but the results will not be good. all her new social interactions will be involved with other troubled teens some are much worse off and have very serious personality disorders please reconsider
been there, had to witness 4 years of miscues
p.s. you will be billed by the state for any time they invest.
2006-06-26 06:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by uglyfishwft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋