I know it sounds awful. I knew he was married when I met him since we were working together. I am still working at the place that he owns and still sleeping with him. He does not intend to leave his wife and insists that I only sleep with him. I am starting to get feelings for him and I don't know what to do. Am I a fool for thinking he will ever leave her?
2006-06-13 15:20:39 · 53 answers · asked by livingandloving 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does not have kids and I am not looking for a relationship with him, I just really want to continue working where I am and go back to "normal" at work. Oddly enough, things are relatively normal at work and there is no awkwardness...I know it is wrong what I did, but I feel like it is his commitment to his wife - not mine...however i have been in this situation before and know how much it sucks to be cheated on. Either way I am still involved and trying to weave myself out of this one with as little damage as possible...
2006-06-13 15:49:04 · update #1
Yes, you are a hopeless fool for thinking that, and really dont mean to offend you, but thats the awful truth.
What you are doing is very very bad, but theres no point in getting sad for what happened yet, the point is what you have to do NOW, finish with that, dont do it no even one more time, because in case you dont see it, you are just being used as a sexual instrument and nothing else. Of course he wont leave his wife, and trust me, that the fact that he doesnt want you to see anyone else doenst mean that he cares about you, it means only that he is a stupid selfish! He wants everything and you get nothing! Does he takes you out? Does he sleeps in your bed every night? Does he takes your phone calls anytime? NO. But, in the opposite, everytime he wants sex with you, you are there. Is that a fair business? NO.
So, why do you sell your self so short?
Why do you waste your body, and your dignity like that?
Is that trash what you think that you deserve?
Is that the best you can get, i mean, do you think you are that bad?
Get some well deserved steem, quit that guy and that job.
Get someone who loves you, who treats you like a princess, who gives you back all the good things that you give.
And pray, because things that looks impossible or very hard for us, are just the simplest thing to GOD. He will give you the strenght and the peace that you need, and you will feel the real love when you open your heart and let Him love you.
God bless you!
2006-06-13 15:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shannella 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
You really do know the answers to all of those questions, however, I will firmly and bluntly go over them with you.
First... NEVER sleep with your boss. That is dipping his pen in company ink, so to speak, and it is UNacceptable for everyone.
Second.. He is MARRIED! Married is just that, MARRIED. How would you feel in his wife's place? If he really didn't want to be there, he wouldn't be. You are being used... and that is FOOLISH.
Third... STOP sleeping with him immediately. If you had no feelings for him before, and are just now developing them, then for goodness sake WHY did you go to bed with him in the first place? What a tangled web we weave. Don't be foolish AND stupid!
I think it is time for you to grow up. Get OUT of bed with a married man, and have a little pride and integrity!
2006-06-13 15:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by summersun_10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things just happen some times. You should try to keep your feelings out of it. You knew right from the start that he was already married. All you need to do is talk to him tell him what you are feeling as in you still want to work there ext. But you would be smart by not starting a relation ship with him.
2006-06-13 15:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a fool he is using you for sex that all and he is doing it over and over again because he knows you like it but if you learn to say NO that it you will be happy with someone that loves you and marry you.You will be the person that is going to get hurt the most because you are going to feel sad about yourself if you don't end it now. Do the right thing for yourself not for that stupid man he is not worth it there is plenty fishes in the sea good luck and find a single man and believe me you will get more than sex.
2006-06-13 15:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by sasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest quitting him first, then your job. I know it's hard, but you have to stop seeing him, because it will only end in a huge heartbreak for you. You can never get what you want out of this! He's already told you he won't leave his wife. So I suggest you get out of the relationship, AS FAST AS YOU CAN, before any more damage is done to both your life and your career!
2006-06-13 15:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds awful because it is awful. This is wrong on every level. Want your life to be screwed up beyond all recognition? Stop sleeping with him. He is using you as his outlet ... his extra hole. He enjoys dominating you for his twisted reasons of insecurity.
Plenty of great guys out there who will sport-f**k you if that is what you want. That is all you are getting with this dude. Only sex with him could be lethal. His wife will be devastated when she finds out. Her older brother or sister may decide to kill you.
If you want a real relationship, start with guys who aren't married and who are willing to try to keep a commitment. And who won't use their position of authority in the workplace to get pu**y.
2006-06-14 19:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO!!! Why do we do this type of thing to ourselves???
Yes, if he is telling you that he won't leave his wife honey, he won't leave her. I have an issue with the fact that he doesn't want you to be with anyone else, that is just wrong and should give you insight to how selfish he is being.
The relationship must stop. If you are able to and can afford to you should find another job because you've got to keep your emotions in check with this one. If you can't it has to stop. If you keep going it will affect, and probably already has, your personal life.
You truly, truly deserve someone that can make you their #1. Good luck!
2006-06-13 15:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a fool. I had a cheating husband, he never left me. I finally left him and he was devastated. They always think they can have their cake & eat it too. How dare he insist you only sleep with him while he is sleeping with his wife. Oh? Don't think he isn't, think again, he has to sleep with her so that she won't become suspicious.
Why are you getting feelings for him, he is a user and a loser.
Get a different job and your own man!
2006-06-13 15:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Getting attached"? . . . "GETTING attached"???
Sorry to tell you this, but I think you already ARE attached. And just to make things perfectly clear, your boss ISN'T attached to you . . . else he'd be playing you a bit and at least TALK about one day leaving his wife to be with you. No, sorry to say, he feels pretty comfy with how things are, and he obviously knows that you are content as well. This is as far as your 'relationship' with him will ever get. No need for him to leave his wife while you are willing to provide extracurricular activity for him. And don't delude yourself into thinking that he is "trapped" with his wife and you are his saving grace; quite the contrary... he has his wife AND you! He ain't gonna budge. You need to get out of that job and as far away from him as possible. NOT easy, I know, but necessary for your own well being. Good luck !
2006-06-13 15:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by mda10k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Don't eat where you sh*t." That's what people say. Too late to say, "You should of known better."
He, my dear, is therefore "getting" what he wants.-->Career,Wife,Kids?, and FREE BOOTY on the side. Obviously he will not leave his life. Forget about waiting on his mind to change:Homewrecker. I dont know about you but, I don't like being just a piece of free meat on the side. And working there afterwards will only make it WORSE. The booty is already there. He will continue on having it his way IF YOU DO NOT QUIT. and quit fast. I hope you learn your lesson. and stay away from other MARRIED MEN. ESPECIALLY MINE.
2006-06-13 15:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋