my boyfriend of over a year and a half and i have a wonderful relationship. the only problem is that if he does something that i don't like or that bothers me...he usually can tell and he asks me what's wrong. i always say nothing, to avoid stress and conflict and a fight or whatever. i know this is not healthy, and we've talked about it numerous times.
any suggestions on how to help me open up? please help! thank you.
2006-06-13 15:14:57 · 3 answers · asked by vagirl098765 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
like tonight he said something kind of joking around and it hurt my feelings...he asked if he upset me and right a way i said no even though he did. i don't want to be a liar!
2006-06-13 15:23:20 · update #1
This is a little confusing, so I am going to take a guess at what You mean. At first I thought You meant that Your boyfriend is a liar, but after reading Your question over again, this is what I got from it. You feel that You are not being honest, by not being able to tell Your boyfriend when He has done something to upset You. First of all You teach People how to treat You, so You have to speak up for Yourself. And believe it or not, that is a pretty normal response for a Woman, in this type of situation. You just have to be honest with Him, if You never speak up, how is He going to know, or do things differently, so that You can be completely happy in Your relationship. If something goes wrong, agree that You will have a box that You can freely write down, and put Your feelings inside, and go through it together and discuss them. That will help You if it is difficult for You to speak up. You just have to make Your voice be heard. It may be easier than You thought, and You will wonder why You did not do it sooner.
Be Strong, Be Happy, Make Your Voice Heard, and Your Feelings Validated, Best Wishes, and God Bless
2006-06-13 15:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
start with something relatively safe, or put some humor into it. Like if you hate the way he chews his food, wait until he comments on how much he likes what he's eating and you kind of laugh and say..."I can tell!!!" He'll get the hint and you aren't hurting his feelings. The hard part is to tell the difference between something he can change, and something you are just going to have to get used to...
2006-06-13 22:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him strait away, how you feel don't hold it inside or it will eat you up, if you don't tell him these things,he will never get to know you properly, if he really cares for you he will understand, there will always be differences in the way you and he thinks,in these cases you need to communicate with each other be honest and up front with each other, He wont be able to right something if he does,nt know it annoys you and visa versa there are enough hurdles in life without letting old ones clutter up your life. couples who respect and care for each other will usually find common ground to get over these hurdles together
2006-06-13 22:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by di s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋