i fell in love with my best ex's best friend, and now they neither one will talk to me, am I a bad person for doing this? can anyone offer me some advice here?
2006-06-13 14:57:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Btw.. i am a guy... and she is a girl
2006-06-26 16:12:38 · update #1
no your not a bad person we cant control who we feel at times give your freind to sometime im sure he/she will talk with you again he/she proably feels hurt and may feel the same way but he/she pride she may not approch you first, tell he/she how you feel, and that you wants things to go back to the way they where. Its not worth loosing your best freind for a crush.
Good Luck
2006-06-27 05:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by lnara m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a bad person. I think the reason you fell in love with the your ex's best friend was because you felt it was a safer. It was safer to have feelings for a person with similar personality traits or a person that you are familiar with so that you wouldn't have to take a risk in finding someone new. This is normal. I recommend that you take a break from any romantic relationships and maybe when you're ready; take a risk and find someone new. Don't stress because the ex and his/her friend wont talk to you. Move on. And no, you're not a bad person.
2006-06-13 22:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends did the exact same thing. And the good news is the she is now dating the best friend and is the happiest she has ever been. At first the best friend didn't want anything to do with her because she dated one of his good friends. They ended up talking on-line and became friends but he still said that he could never date her then about 6 months later he said that he had fallen in love with her and asked her out. So it can work out and your not a bad person for doing this, you have to do what you think and feel is right.
2006-06-13 22:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not think your a bad person for falling in love with someone. Maybe your just a bit confused right now which happens to all of us. I know this may be hard for you to do but maybe you should just ignore both of them for awhile. It doesn't sound to me like they are your true friends are they? Think about what I am saying.
I believe you should just be cool for awhile and keep your distance from them and let things cool off. Wait a couple week or a month and see how you feel then about the situation. I hope I have enlightened you and make you think about this relationship. Have you thought about just going out with someone else, that maybe it wasn't meant to be anyway?
2006-06-24 08:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by MARK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad person. It's not your fault that you fell in love with your ex's best friend it's just that you like him and he likes you. So just try talking to both of them.
2006-06-24 20:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this doesn't make you a bad person at all. if you have feelings for someone, you can't just deny or ignore them. the best thing you can do is just to talk to the person and see how they are feeling about you....in the end you might not come to the conclusion you want about the situation, but at least you let the other person know how you feel.
2006-06-13 22:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a easy question. I don't think your a bad person but I think you may have made some bad decisions. I really need more details to answer this better. Best of Luck!
2006-06-27 12:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Judy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a bad person. you may have had some poor decision making. did you reveal your love the day after the break up? etc etc. i tend to avoid friends ex(s) but sometimes you cant pick who you love, you just do. that happens. i wait 6 months or 1 year if it was a bad breakup.
2006-06-24 16:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by the_digital_godfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't make you a bad person. You can't help who you fall in love with. If he is truly your best friend, then he will understand. Go for it and Good Luck!!
2006-06-27 11:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by gab_b_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be a sticky situation; HOWEVER, it is possible. I actually fell in love & married my first love's best friend....years later. It felt odd at first...especially since my first love passed away, BUT we worked through it.
2006-06-27 01:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Glo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋