Am I A Hoe For Wanting A Baby at 14?

Question

ok well il 14 years old and i really wanna baby and ive been having sex hoping to get pregnant and all my friends saying im being hoeish for doin guys just for their sperm but thats all i really weant from them and so i do them abd then if im not prego imma do another guy so i can get prego and i dont care what anyone says i wanna baby soo bad and imma do anythin to have one..am i acting like a hoe for that?

Answer 1

Dont do this, please! I had my first child at 18 and it was hard for even me and I was living with my childs father. It has been really hard. I am 26 now but realized that I just wanted a baby because my parents didn't pay a lot of attention to me. You need someone to talk to just email me. You are not a hoe, you just need guidance.

Answer 2

Why do you really want a child. There are other ways to find the gratification you are seeking. Many women want children to fill a space they feel is empty. That space can not be filled by a child the way she thinks. Instead you will find that it is much harder than you think.

At 14 how are you going to provide for your child. If you think that the state will help it only goes so far. How will you fill in the gap. A boy will not provide no matter what kind of fairy tale he tries to tell you. Instead you will be another single mother who can not give that baby that did not ask to be here what she wants and needs.

I was a single mother of 2 boys. I thought that my ex husband would take care of our sons. Instead he will pay when he wants, which is just enough to keep him out of jail in our state. They see is as oh well he is paying. This makes it hard on the three of us.

Also in some states if a girl has a child while under the age of 16 the state will take the child away because the mother can not financially or emotionally take care of the child.

Please think about what you are doing and fill the space with something better. Go to school make something of yourself then have children when you are truly ready.

Answer 3

You are doing them for all the wrong reasons. Getting pregnant is not a game. It's a lifetime commitment and will end your days of having fun.

A ho gets paid for it - you're acting more like a s-l-u-t (sorry, but that is the word.) You will get a bad reputation and since you're also having unprotected sex, you're probably in line for some really nasty diseases, too - like herpes, genital warts, syphillis, gonhorrea, chlamidia and AIDS. These are very high stakes, CP, and the odds are against you.

SOme people think that having a baby is like having a pet - they're cute and cuddly and love you oh so much. Well, guess what? It's a human being we're talking about, not a puppy or a kitten. Are you going to go on welfare and stay there your whole life? When are you going to get a job, have a career, travel or fall in love? You can't dump the baby on your parents - not fair to them! - and because you are so young, Social Services will almost certainly be involved.

Please, reconsider. There are plenty of people to talk to about this, confidentially - start with your local youth hotline, or talk to your doctor if you're comfortable with him/her. I would also get the Dr to check you for diseases - they'll keep it confidential but, if you do have something and don't get it treated, you may NEVER be able to have a baby. Some diseases can make you sterile. Keep me posted, K? I care. [e-mail]

Answer 4

Why do you want to have a baby so badly? Maybe you think you want a baby to have someone to love you? Before you have your own baby why don't you babysit or something so you know what the responsibility is like.
What are you going to do with a baby anyways? How are you going to support a child? Do you have a job? Most people work hard to have enough money to afford a child and it's still not enough.
You are not a hoe for wanting a baby at 14, I think you're just confused, however sleeping with a bunch of guys is not showing the responsibility you need to care for anyone, not yourself or a child. Please stop having sex, the last think this world needs is another baby with a mother who doesn't know how to take care of it.

Answer 5

I think its sad that no one else mentioned this, but what about STD's and HIV/AIDS? Wanting and having a baby is a really huge responsibility and if you are having unprotected sex, I think it is safe to say that you really might not be ready for such a huge responsibility. If you really want a baby and you think you are ready take some really important first steps go to a Dr or Clinic and ask to be tested for ALL STD's and for HIV/AIDS, many STDs not only effect you but also your unborn child, can you handle a child that may have serious health problems and is it fair to your child if you are sick or if you pass away because of an STD, also find out what the effects are of having a child at such a young age (both physical and psychological), and maybe see if you can experience first hand what it really is like to have a baby before you make a lifelong committment. Are you acting like a "hoe"? I would say you are acting like a very irresponsible 14 year old. Be responsible and educated!

Answer 6

Well lets just say, the way your going about it is NOT a very good idea! You could easily get diseases and than you will never be able to have children. You have your whole life ahead of you! Trying to get pregnant right now is not what you should be worried about. You should try babysitting babies, and get a feel of a child and their needs. At least with this opportunity, you will get a pretty good feel of all the attention a child requires. And when you babysit, don't just babysit for an hour or two, babysit for the parents' work day, five days a week. Believe me, you WILL get a good idea of what having a baby is all about! But, that's not all, in reality, you have to make sure you are very financially stable! Remember, there's diapers, formula, bathing, entertainment for the baby, and even more important. . . your FULL attention! Your friends will want to go and hang out, and you won't be able to do anything with them because, your baby will be sick, cranky, or hungry. Your friends won't wait for you to finish taking care of your baby; they're just gonna want to GO and they'll leave you behind. There's lots to think about! I hope you take this seriously! Please think this over & over & over before you make the biggest mistake of your life!

Answer 7

Wanting a baby at your age doesn’t make you a hoe, there needs that you feel you you want. Every girl goes threw them. It’s natural to want a baby once you hit the growing up stage. It’s a feeling you get all the time and you will more as you grow up, but what you have to do is take a step back and really think about this. Having a baby is a big deal, as many others have told you if you feel your ready to have a baby then no one can tell you different but with having a baby also means you must feel your ready to take on the world. Having a baby comes with big responsibilities for instance are you going to be ready to take on a job,, maybe still go to school, making enough money to raise your child. Because once you have a child it’s not about you anymore, your not going to be the one shopping for cloths or getting your nails done, or going out with friends and even on dates. You will miss so much in life, maybe even your prom. These are memories you want. My 15 year old sister has two kids, she’s lost so much. I had asked her one time if she regrets having them. She looked at me and thought for a minute and said no but that she regrets not growing up first.

Answer 8

It does not make you a hoe to want a baby. It does make rather ignorant though. I was 20 when I got pregnant with my first child and I was way to young. If you want a bay that bad sign up for home ec and get one of those fake babies that are way to real. You appearantly have no idea what it means to be a mother if you are so desperate at the age of 14. The aches of pregnancy to the excruciating pain of labor, contractions and birth. Then once you do have the child you have to get up several times a night to feed, change and comfort him/her. To top of your sleep deprived life you have to be able to afford the diapers, wipes, toys and trappings that babies and children require. Not to mention that once you get tired of taking care of the child you can't just give it away to a new home like you would a dog, you're stuck with the child until you die. Kids can be a real joy, I know I have 4, but you can't just want them to want them you have to be mature enough to love, nuture, cherish and provide for them. 14 years old is not mature enough to be a mother, I wasn't mature enough to be a mother at 20. As for having sex with so many guys..yeah that makes you a hoe. Wanting a baby doesn't. Do you even have a clue the risks you're taking of getting an STD? Seek counseling about all the different deseases out there and for goodness sakes if you won't stop having sex at least use protection. Wait until your older to have a child!

Answer 9

my dear child,
I have a few questions for you to really think about and possibly answer your own question. 1) since your so young what would you do if your baby was pre mature, do you know what that means, do you know the possiblities of your having a premarture baby because of your age? check into that and figure out what you would do if your child was premature? 2) At birth your child appears to be healthy and normal but you find out he has AIDS from you for mating with all these guys, who is going to take care of the baby after you die? how will you take care of the baby when you start getting sick? what if you both are sick at the same time is it fair that the child has no one there to comfort him cause your in another part of the hospital? for you it's ok cause you made or are making the chose to play russian roulette with your life but if you truely want a baby to love how much love are you showing a child you may have if your not trying your best to give him a good start in life? 3) ask your parents if they are willing to help you raise this child. not unless you already have a job and a way to buy formula and pampers and clothes for the baby don't worry about buying things just for yourself because those days are over the child always comes first, do you agree with that? if not you may be interested in knowing the name 'Children and Family Services' or it may be named something different in your town but they will be on your trail shortly after having your child if you have no place to live with and you may think it will make you an adult if you get a check in your name but if your parents are not willing to support you and your child, then you and your child will become a part of the system and THEY will tell you how much income you are allowed and that small income will need to be spent on diapers, clothes and transportation to the doctors and soon in some states there will be a co payment for insurance. Oh yeah, then there's food and formula you have to spend that little bit of money on. Is this something you can deal with because these are the facts and if you don't do these things If you don't follow what they say, you just go to jail for endangering the life of a minor. So please check with your resourses before you have a child. See if your parents are willing to support you and your baby.

Are you a ho for wanting a baby at 14? That name, ho, doesn't come from delivering a baby at any age that name comes from how a person chooses to handle their sexual activities. If being called this name bothers you then you may want to change the way your going about getting what you want. There are better ways, more responsible ways, more mature ways. Check with your parents first, though you may not feel it now, they will be the ones that are there when everyone else leaves you hanging. or check with Planned Parenthood if your parents are not available, see what they have to say about risks for you and risks for your newborn baby. Last question, what would you do if you had to decide whether or not to pull the plug on your baby could you do that after going through all those labor pains all by yourself and you have this child now something went wrong and now the child is on a respirator and brain dead because of a deformity or maybe he ran out in front of a car and is left with brain damage. can't talk anymore needs years and years of therapy back and forth to the doctors at the age of one or two at this point do you have a car or do your parents have to take you or will you catch the bus or call on one of your friends from school that are getting ready for the prom. Choose wisely.

Answer 10

sweetie, u need to slow down a lil, u said u dont care what ppl say and then u ask if ur a hoe, so if sum 1 comments that u are, what are u gunna do?

i commented on most of your questions, and im the 15yr old thats pregnant with twins.
i gotta few questions for u:

do u want a kid bcuz u like to hold them?

can u give this child everything that u didnt have?

do u have the MONEY, cuz dont depend on your parents or other ppl for money cuz trust, it wont happen.

can u handle stayin up 4 almost 2 days straight with no sleep listening to a baby cry in ur ear, and not kno how to stop it?

the stuff i mentioned was the least of ur worries>> diapers, formula, food, clothes, TIME, MONEY, doctor appointments, health insurance, unexpected bills, toys, crib, car seat, play pen, bottles, and sooooooo much more.

i kno i cant convince u not to have a baby but i want u to please go to the website in the source thing below to see what will happen if u keep duin wut u duin>>>>>

best of luck 2 ya yungin...holla!

Answer 11

You dont want a baby you want love. Find a man to treat you right and love you unconditionally. That is why you want a baby. If you have a baby now you cant give it a good life. Your being a hoe for wanting to **** men just for sperm so you can have a baby. Ever watch Maury your gonna be one of those women on there who bring in 30 men and still dont know who the father is