ok let me tell you guys and girls but to me i feel having an abortion is killing a human being and i feel it's wrong but i have a friend at school and she lost her virginity in 5th grade and got pregnant in sixth and seventh and she got two abortions and might be pregnant now and she doenst know wether or not to get an abortion or keep the baby i told her to keep it but she's freaked!
2006-06-13 14:50:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If you decide that you do not want to have a baby, please hear me out. There are a lot of people like my wife and I who are unable to have a baby. We depend on people who do not want a baby, but have gotten pregnant. There is a large "market" for babies out there and people like me will pay medical costs, etc. to adopt your baby. We don't care about race or gender. Please talk to someone about adoption. You may find someone you know in a place like I am in, so you will be able to keep in touch with your child, but let someone else raise them. If you don't know anyone who is interested, e-mail me.
2006-06-20 01:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK.....having an abortion is obviously not against her religion or her conscience! Tell her that she needs to use some sort of birth control method before she has sex. Believe me, condoms, birth control pills and the shot are less expensive than a baby by far. Tell her to go to the doctor and get a check up and if she is pregnant then she needs to make an adult decision since she is doing adult behaviors. Either have the baby and give it up for adoption or have an abortion because in order to get by in this world today she will need to have a good education and doing that with a baby is a hard way to go. Just be a good friend to her and listen to what she has to say, because she obviously thinks she is old enough to make her own decisions and it seems to me that nothing will change her mind. Support her in what ever decision she makes, but put in your ideas as well. I think she has low self esteem and she needs a good friend to try and help her through this rough time.
2006-06-13 15:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by apriljj22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your friend has some deep-rooted issues, because the average 5th grader isn't having sex. Where are her parents? If she is pregnant, she needs to know the physical damage that another abortion can do, however, a pregnancy can be very hard on a body of a girl that is 13 or 14. With that said, I would give her the best advice that I could, as her friend, and then I would refer her to a trusted counselor or adult that could help her through these circumstances, or talk to an adult that you know and trust yourself, because neither you or her should deal with this alone.
2006-06-13 15:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Leah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, do you know how hard it is to raise a child? Even if you have a good job and a home of your own? This is a decision your friend has to make...just don't dog her if she chooses an abortion. She is just a baby herself and trying to raise a baby is impossible at her age. If you try and push your beliefs on her, you are liable to lose a friend. If she is dead set against an abortion, tell her there are such things as open adoptions. She needs to bring an adult she can trust into this. Now, you are how old? If you were the one pregnant, how would you afford day care, formula, diapers, clothing for the baby, medical expenses, delivery costs, car seats, high chair, etc. etc. etc. that comes with having a baby? How would you finish school? Don't even think the baby's father is going to help out, esp. if the father is around her age. Then there are his parents...will they believe the baby is his? with her history, there is a good chance they won't, or for that matter, the father might not either. Understand, I am not saying she is a slut, I am just trying to get you to be a realist. This is a human being you are talking about, you are wrong trying to convince your friend to keep the baby and try to raise it. Once you have a baby, your childhood is over...she will have to go without things like mascara, cute clothes...not to mention sleep! When she has finals and needs to study, and her baby has a temp of 103 and needs to go to the E.R. because it is after 10 pm. Then she will have to get up at least 4 hours before school starts to feed and bathe the baby, shower, have breakfast herself, probably change the baby's clothes and her own, if the baby spits up all over both of them (count on at least another shower for her and a bath for the baby), pack the baby's bag for day care, drop the baby off, the go to class. Get the picture? So, hon, I hate to be a killjoy, but if you have no idea what you are talking about, get off it, and get your friend to talk to her parents, or a trusted adult friend!!
Now, I don't think your friend is a hoe, but this is her 3rd pregnancy, right? What kind of home life does she have? What are her parents thinking of? There are such things as free birth control, but she needs to use them. The best way of all to keep from getting pregnant is by not having sex. Period!!! She is obviously not mature enough to have sex, maybe she is having sex to make sure the boys like her. WRONG!!!!! Maybe she got hooked up with a much older boy/man. If that is the case, I would be throwing his worthless *** in jail! So, that said, your friend needs to go to the Dr. ASAP and have a test to see if she is pregnant...if she is, at least she will know for sure. If not, then it is time for some counseling and some serious birth control. Getting pregnant is the least of her problems...there is HIV, Hepatitus C, and a horde of other dangerous STD'S to worry about. But you are just a kid yourself, again, don't try to get her to keep the baby, you are suggesting sometihng neither one of you are old enough or mature enough to deal with.
2006-06-13 15:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all, she should not be doing things like that in her grade and at her age. but unfortunately, since that's her lifestyle, as her friend, you should advise her, because she is most likely to listen to you than anyone else. there are some options, she could first of all find out if she is reallly pregnant, then she should look in the yellow pages for a pregnancy help centre. they give good advice... then she should think about her options, either have the baby and give it up for adoption, or tell her parents the truth and have the baby. from experience, the parents get really mad, depending on their character, but by the time they set one look at their grandchild, they'll love him/ her forever and try to forget the past, and look forward to the future.. i hope this helps you : GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-13 14:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bootylicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do her parents think????? you both are young young. she needs to get on the pill. Now as for her being pregnant, to many abortions can ruin her chances of having a baby when she grows up. I agree 2 is already to many. she could have the baby and put the baby up for adoption.
2006-06-13 14:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She screwed up. But she can't keep the baby, she must put it up for adoption or have an abortion because apparently "your friend" has some psychological problems!
2006-06-13 14:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by Fabian O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her shes a stupid HOE!! And her mom needs her as$ beat for raising such a stupid as$ little girl with no self respect. That little girl should have been aborted thats why shes had all those abortions. Doesn't she have any shame?
Your friend needs to be put to sleep!!!!!
2006-06-13 15:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't she gotten some professional help by now? Ask her to con cider keeping the baby and place the baby up for adoption. She will be respected and loved for making this decision.
2006-06-13 14:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to do what she thinks will be right for her and learn how to purchase condoms or get on birth control or stop having sex. in ten years she is gonna regret doing all that, she is either going to feel bad or be ashamed and wonder what it would be like to have a child. she needs to learn from her mistakes .. not find an easy way out every time
2006-06-13 15:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by chelxsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋