My best friend lives in Puerto Rico and I live in Florida. I love him to death but like a friend!!!! Last night he told me that i was the girl of his dreams and that he was madly in love with me!!!!! I dont feel like that towards him and he's my buddy and i dont want to hurt his feelings, What should I do??????
2006-06-13 14:45:33 · 13 answers · asked by B9O9R9I9C9U9A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its common for boys that took the wrong way to approach the one they loved - by being a best friend and later on confess his feeling for her.
Most these guys go down this road because he felt it was improbable to approach the girl, whether she's too popular, taken or just too intimate to act. By identifying how what stage of your life that he started approached you as your friend would help you understand what kind of person he is inside and help you decide what you want to do.
Honestly, there is no way that you can not hurt his feeling by saying "I just want to be friend". He knows you too well and is pushing for the next step, you won't be able to put him down gently because he'll know what you are trying to do to him - rejection.
The best way I believe to handle this situation is to be honest and straight forward - tell him how you feel about him. Be firm in your tone and your words, it'll help him recover later on and possibly save your friendship with him, but you have to show him how you feel with no mix feeling.
Only a clean break up can save your friendship, hope you can do it.
2006-06-13 14:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by thsiung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm that's amazingly not straight forward. ok the way I see it, with the dream and each thing and how you 2 were so close, i imagine she would have beloved both the interest or maybe she replaced into suffering which includes her boy pal. i imagine that if she actually loved her boyfriend she wouldn't have had the enticements with you. perchance she beloved the actual undeniable truth that you've been into her. Now, she stated that she knows in case you're taking your distance. and that is what i imagine you may do. you want to take time for your self and to get over her really because you loved her. i don't think of she will merely anticipate each thing to be everyday again and merely anticipate to be scratch-loose after hurting you and what sounded like most excellent you on. i understand you prefer to be everyday which includes her again, yet for some time i don't think of you'd be. If she has a similar important crew as friends as you do, merely perchance tell your individuals that they ought to act everyday and that you will be wonderful after some time. yet, if she has like an intensive crew of friends of her personal, i don't think of you would could do some thing. you ought to have your own friends who can assist you and hear you, merely provide it some time. I replaced into hoping I helped :) reliable success
2016-10-14 03:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in love and just not realize it yet. there is something you like about him more than any other friend. love comes when you convince yourself that the other person has all the qualities you look for in another person. at this point you may not even thought of him in any other way than a friend, it wasn't even a possibility to be anything more. now it has become a possibility , take your time, don't have a kneejerk reaction and blow him off. it could be a mistake as you get your mind around the idea of maybe something more could be there. good luck.
2006-06-13 15:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like this. I date and he dates but he all the time hints to me that he needs to find him a good ol' country girl (which I am). He also tells me all the time that he loves me. We don't push each other to date or anything, just as friends right now but at times when he has asked me if i would date him, I just tell him that we have a wonderful friendship and if we date, it will mess it all up so let's stay like we are. Hope this is helpful
2006-06-13 14:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kearns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him the truth, cuz letting him pine away for you or giving him the wrong impression would be a thousand times crueler than stopping it right now. if it's too hard for you to say over the phone, write him a letter and let him know that he's your best friend and you really care for him but you don't feel the same way and you probably never will. tell him he's cute/smart/funny/etc. so he doesn't feel like a complete reject but make it clear that there is no relationship potential. be gentle with his feelings but be honest. good luck!
2006-06-13 14:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first things first, stop thinking about things right away, sit down, take a deep breath and take it slowly. maybe you have those kind of feelings for him but you dont know it yet, if you dont just tell him. it might hurt a little at first but then remind him about all your "buddy" times. about the distance. just visit. that can be the reason he loves you, you know, missing you
2006-06-13 14:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by brianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u love them back is the real question falling in love with your best friend could be a potentail (however you spell it )let down if it doesnt work out that friendship willl never be the same but if you feel the same as he or she then go for it
2006-06-13 14:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jaylynn N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him you don't feel the same way. It may hurt the friendship, but so will pretending you feel something that isn't there. Just be as open and honest as you can and tell him you're sorry but you don't feel the same.
2006-06-13 14:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends with this person and let time tell
2006-06-14 20:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Alene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to him that you just want to be his friend and that you are just not interested in him in that way. he might feel hurt or uspset but he will eventually get over it
2006-06-13 14:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋