My Fiancee Wants Me 2 Marry Her. And I Love her Very Much. We Have Been Goin Out For Over 10 Yrs Now. Should I Buy Her Another Ring And Marry Her Even My Mom Tells Me Not 2 Marry Her?
2006-06-13 14:40:11 · 11 answers · asked by stripowind_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would you need to buy another ring!?
2006-06-21 17:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Grace 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't love her or you would have married her during the first 2 or 3 years you were together. Why make HER suffer just because you have your personal hang ups and would rather listen to your mommy then the woman you supposedly love. I think that being with someone for 10 years without marriage is just a total waste of time for both parties. If you can not find a reason to be married then there is something in the relationship that is just not working and you need to move on. I don't care how much you say you "love" her. You have obviously loved SOMETHING ELSE more.
2006-06-20 19:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about your situation but if you love this woman you should marry her with or without your mom's consent. You should tell your mother how you feel about this woman if she doesn't know.
I went through a similar situation with my mother and other relatives. For about a year certain people would do all they could to talk me out of it. It wasn't my fiance- they still looked at me as if I was a 'child' and didn't think I could handle it (I am the baby of the family). I am so very happy I did not listen to them because I have never been happier in my whole life than I am now. Marriage is not always easy but it is worth it : )
2006-06-13 22:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Akalei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with her? Why doesn't your mother like her? It's already been 10 years you might as well already be married! Not much will change after the wedding when you have been together for so long but there is obviously a reason why you have not married her yet...you need to find out for yourself without listening to your mother or other people.
2006-06-13 21:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Abs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years? Are you leading her on? Does she expect marriage from you?
If you don't want to marry her you need to let her know that you don't want that now, and you may not ever want that. It isn't right for you to keep her when someone else will love her the way she wants to be loved, and you can be with someone that makes you and your mom happy.
If you really love her, marry her, if not be honest because it isn't fair and you know that because you asked this very private question on a public message board. I hope that you've at least had the respect to ask her this same question. Also, "should I buy her another ring and marry her even though..." sounds like you may feel she's a hassle. She is going to pick up on that and she deserves to be with someone that wants to be with her and you deserve to be with someone you want to be with.
2006-06-13 22:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with her for 10 yrs and you still don't know if you should marry her???? What do you think marrying her is going to change? She put up with you all this time, I think you owe it to her and yourself cuz you most likely won't find another woman to stick around as long as she has without a ring and a wedding date.
2006-06-22 13:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by D D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you waited so long?! There must be something big holding you back if you've gone out with her for 10 years and still haven't popped the question!
I'd say you should listen to your heart on this one, not your mother. If you think you should marry her, that's great, but if you've waited 10 years, something tells me that your relationship with her is either coming along very slowly, or something isn't quite right.
I suggest talking about it with her first. Maybe she has big doubts about marrying you, or maybe she's not quite ready. See how she feels--remember, marriage involves TWO people!
Good luck!
2006-06-13 22:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is a long time you should know each other pretty well by now, but if you have to ok it with your mother maybe your aren't ready to get married to anyone at this time.
2006-06-13 22:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by judy_derr38565 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god dude after 10 years you should do some thing. Your not marring her because your mommy tells you not to.It should not be your mothers diction any way. Ya know if you love her like you say you do you better get off your *** because she might not wait for you and mommy for ever. Sorry don't mean to DOG ya.
2006-06-22 06:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, what are you waiting for??? Another 10 years to pass??? Are you happy the way you are??? Or do you want to waste another 10 years of your life??? If she is good enough to be with for 10 years.... then what???
2006-06-13 21:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two really love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together then just do it already.
2006-06-13 22:35:42 · answer #11 · answered by shaungirl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋