How can I be cool in 6 & 7 grade so nobody will make fun of me and just want to be my friend?

Question

Well, I really need help because everybody is making fun of me saying that im mean to people, all i say is like please go away or something like that... Its really hard for me explain, in overall, they think im a geek but im not, I try to act cool, maybe its because im smart, but is that supposed to be BAD???!!!

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with being smart, in fact they are probably jealous of you because you are smart. DOn't try to be something that your not. Be yourself. And if you like sports get involved in that. Have fun!

Answer 2

I am a middle school counselor and have been for MANY years. My best advice is be yourself. Ignore mean comments. Don't let them know you are upset. Become an actor or actress. You must not let them see you upset, or acting negatively toward their comments or behaviors to you. If you do they will continue to call you nasty names and make fun of you. Make new friends by smiling and being friendly. Being smart is a blessing and a gift and there are other kids who are also bright. In middle school it is critical that you don't try to be different. Try to fit in by not dressing differently or acting wierd. Once you are in high school, things will change and you can do, act, dress and anything you want, but while you are in middle school ALL the kids expect everybody to act the same, walk the same, dress the same, talk the same. Hang in there. You can do it Bellieve that things will get better and they will. Read this every day until you understand everything I'm explaining. It WORKS. Good luck.

Answer 3

If you can accept that there are some things you cannot change, then things will improve for you...

First, EVERYONE gets made fun of, whether to their face or behind their back. If someone is teasing you, try laughing about it. You'd be really surprised how quickly people stop teasing when you are laughing with them.

Second, if you tell people to go away, why would they want to be friends with you? You have to give to get, thats the way friendship works

Thirdly, you cant get EVERYONE to like you or think you are cool. Thats just not possible.

Fourth, if you are TRYING to ACT cool, people will notice, and they will make fun of you even more. Just be yourself, be comfortable, dont act like someone else or be fake. That only makes things worse

Fifth, being popular is a LOT of work, and it just isnt worth it. You have to constantly worry about what others think, and you will never really know who your real friends are or who is using you..

These are all for sure. They are absolutes, and will not change. Once you accept these as truth, you will begin to relax, and things will improve.

Rather than trying to be cool with a lot of people, why not try just having a small group of friends first? You have to trust me on this, its a lot better than being popular..

As for being smart, are you a showoff? No one likes a show off. Just do your work, do your best in school, and dont try to show off in class that you are smarter than others.

Answer 4

The better question might be, "How can I learn to live with the garbage that I'll have to deal with socially for the next six or seven years, and still come out with my self respect?" It sounds harsh, but really, hardly anyone enjoyed sixth and seventh grade, and most of us thought high school wasn't all that great either.

The honest truth is, you will have days that go well, and you'll have days that you hate everyone around you, and you think they all hate you. If it helps, remember that almost everyone around is having just as difficult a time as you are. Yes, even the cool kids. When I was in 8th grade, the most popular girl in my class committed suicide. You can't know what others are really thinking and feeling. All you can do is deal with your own feelings. Decide now what kind of person you want to be, and try to live up to that, regardless of what anyone else says or does. Look for other people with similar interests, and hang out with them.

School ends. It's hard to imagine now, but life after graduation is a thousand times better. Just keep thinking about the future.

Answer 5

Ok, listen. I have been in the same place that you are right now. When I was in 7th grade I was the biggest dork ever, everyone made fun of me, and i was miserable. But you know what? It gets better. High school was so much better. Even if you aren't popular, everyone finds their place. It might take longer for some people than others. Don't listen to what other kids are saying. What's most important is what you think of yourself. If you're smart, than that's wonderful, you'll be off making a difference in the world and making something of yourself, and they'll be working in a macDonald's. Basically just don't take what they say to heart, and just be yourself, cause if you try to be something that you aren't life will be harder in the long run. If people can't appreciate you for who you are, than they are not worth it.

Answer 6

Don't try! Being "cool" is something I knew all too well. Homecoming Queen, Cheerleader, all the silly titles.
By 9th grade I was well up the social ladder, my grades drop ed, i skip ed school all the time as a result Miss Popularity was a teenage mom by my 11th grade yr., doing all I could to buy dippers. Now, 5yrs. out of high school I work 50hrs. a week and go to school part time. Making up for lost time, trying to support my son (alone). To this day no one from my squad, the parties, the football team or "the cool kids table" @ lunch have offered to babysit. My life now is so FOCUSED and things are great but I'm stilling making up for the loss of the real importance of school, an education! Sounds like your on point, keep your true goals in sight. GEEKs ROCK!!!!

Answer 7

Have you ask your Mom and Dad some ways to make friends? Advice to our children was " just be yourself" because years from now what you accomplish is way more important than the opinions of a few people who do not know or understand you. The kids who tease and call names, don't end up amounting to much.
Should you not find friends among your peers at school, think about some volunteer work at a nursing home. People there welcome friends and someone to talk to. Your local ASPCA and the dogs would love your time. How about being a mentor to a 4th or 5th grader who has difficulty with school?
Now go out and meet some new friends but make sure parents know the plans so they can provide a ride and know your whereabouts when volunteering.

Answer 8

You don't have to try to act cool, that is what they are doing, just be yourself. And when the teacher askes the class a question, you will know the answer. They will soon get the hint that they should get in the act of getting smart. You will be ahead of every one. 6th and 7th grade are tough grades, you will be just fine if you remeber one thing. BE YOURSELF !!!! It does not matter if you know about computers and other things, you will be able to go far if you consentrate on what you want to do in your life.
Also get involved with groups with people. When you get into high school and college and you become that doctor, lawyer, etc... you will see them later in life and you can wonder What did they do with there life ? So think now what you would like to do as a carrer. and then check out all the possibiltys that are out there for you. But REMEMBER BE YOURSELF !!!!!!!!

Answer 9

People will be jealous when you are smart. 10 years from now, you will look back on this and say why on earth did I care?! Once you are older, it does not matter anymore you are a new person.
I have seen people that were the biggest dorks become the most popular and sucessful people in their later years, and I have seen people that were the coolest people end up being homeless, or losers with no friends.
So the key is to be yourself, and be confident. Also the key to being cool is being easygoing. If someone makes fun of you, take it in stride, and make a joke back at them. Dont appear rattled if someone says something insulting to you because that will give them what they want, and make you look weak. If you are easygoing and have a "I really do not care what anyone thinks of me" attitude, people will love you and any haters will look stupid.

Answer 10

good question , i am dr. cool Ph.d when someone makes fun of you what is the root cause, was it you? probably not. it is their own insecurities getting attention focused elsewhere and not on themselves. don't give them what they want which is a reaction from you. some will stop when you get a good laugh from others at their expense. but that is being mean which is what you say the problem is. the single most important lesson you must understand is don't try to act cool it won't work. cool is a state of being that is part of your personality and can't be portrayed. you say you know your not a geek, your on your way find where you fit socially and the cool must come from within. i'm going to prescribe for you to watch a movie or two starring robert deneiro he is cool he is not acting the cool part. did you like leonardo dicaprio in titanic, oh please, rent the basketball diaries you might be too young for taxi driver. good luck in middle school i know what your going through but it will be ok , be cool don't act

Answer 11

Hey,
Dont try to be cool. Way that it works out is the people who are nice and who can relate to multiple groups are the popular ones. Take for example, the treat others like you wanna be treated.....If you want people to be your friend, then you cant tell them to go away all the time! Be nice to people and become open to how other people are, the more accepting you are the more friends you will make. Being smart isnt dorky either, its worse to not know the answer and look like an idiot then to be confident and smart. Good luck.