Would you ever consider dating or marrying someone that has been in prison? He stabbed someone when he was 15 because the girl he was seeing was hit by the guy and the girl was pregnant with his kid.
He pretty much grew up in prison and didn't have his mom or anyone around most of his life. He is a real good guy in so many ways but doesn't know how to live in the real world. Would you stay by his side and love him?
2006-06-13 14:22:27 · 20 answers · asked by lu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Used to be I would say NO to that question, but the man I am with was in prison - I met him 3 months after he got out. He wasn't in for a violent crime, and he was very upfront with me about it all - and I also researched his story and found what he said was true - he took the wrap for someone else (his wife at the time he went in). I was leery at first, but he turned out to be a very kind hearted person, who would do anything he could for anyone. A person just needs to think about the reason a person was in a place like that, and play close attention to the kind of person he is, and how close to his family he is (to me thats a BIG thing) - and yes, make sure he is willing to work and will hold onto a job (that tends to be the biggest problem with ex "cons"- they get the fear noone will hire them so they dont try) But they cant all be labeled as bad - just be careful and find out what kind of person he is NOW before you get in too deep
2006-06-13 19:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably won't stab someone again, so that is not the problem. The problem is that he has been conditioned to life in prison. Dating him in the real world can open up a nasty can of worms. Only you can decide how comfortable you are with him and his social skills. Don't expect him to be comfortable in a variety of settings. So let's say you want to go to a bar or club with him, you might be asking for trouble. Expect him to be uneasy in certain situations and places. Just don't try to be his personal embassador to the "real world". You will drain and exhaust yourself and also train him to be dependent on you and very needy. Good Luck.
2006-06-13 14:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by stephanie e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date him and get to know the real him first. Most guys in prison are the perfect man, tell you all the pretty things you wanna hear and all the dreams they have. Wait till hes in the real world before you do something silly like marrying him. A lot of them are so institutionalized they dont know anything besides being in prison.
2006-06-13 14:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by jelousx626 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-13 14:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by dr_richardsmd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel him out and use your instincts. Prison is a place for correction, and he is out because hopefully he has learned from his mistake. However, if he's been there since age 15, he basically grew up there, and you may really need to help him function in the free world. Give him a chance if that is what your gut tells you.
2006-06-19 20:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by ilovekokonut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a bit self explanatory, you should always Love but to make yourself exclusive for a man that doesn't have a hold on the "real world" you're just setting yourself up for a downfall. There isn't anything wrong with being friends, but there is with becoming a bride. The prison mentally is natorious for game!
2006-06-13 14:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really hard question.. I had kids with a man that was in prison for atempted man slauder. And as of this day he has not changed at all. Has nothing to do with his kids for over 3 years. He turned out to beat me and one of my kids. So whatever your choice is make sure its a good one. Be carefull. Some people can change but most dont. how long have you known him?
2006-06-13 14:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he was in prison for something that is understandable and the fact that he is willing to be a funcitoning part of society would be a couple deciding factors. If he is willing to work/go to school and start to make something of himself then yes why not. If you love eachother and you are willing to go through the uphill struggle he might have with readjusting to society.
Try to get him into counseling - that would probably help a lot.
2006-06-13 14:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that...bad deal. If you must, support the
changes this person is attempting to make in obtaining a decent
life and moving past his past...., do it with much caution
and maintain your autonomy and definitely give it time to see this
person's true character before you develop any deep feelings
..but from personal experience I would have to advise
you to let him create his future on his own without your support
and stay as far away from him as possible until he has proven
what he's really all about. It's not worth the risk...trust me.
2006-06-13 14:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by ljean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have a pass and own pass make us who we are. if you know that he is nice now then why not some of the best people we know now or see on tv have been in prison. many Black people had to go to prison to make things what they are today. vnot just blacks but others like i said be for your pass is your pass we all mess up here and there so yes I would mairry someone like that if i know
how they are now
2006-06-13 14:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋