Some people have this feeling of loneliness even when with people. How can this be lessened?
2006-06-13 14:16:34 · 7 answers · asked by Maggi 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
In my experience, it has to do with not knowing them very well and/or not having much in common with them. Because either way, you have a lot of thoughts that you can't express out loud because they'll either think you're a weirdo or have no clue what you're talking about (or both). When you're the only one who understands you, it gets awful lonely.
The easiest way to fix this would be to hang around different people. If this isn't possible (i.e. they're your coworkers), try to get to know them better so you'll at least be able to share *some* of your thoughts. Making friends online would help too, since it's easier to find ppl you have something in common with. Maybe you can't tell that guy at work about your secret desire to play with Legos, but if you can express it to *someone* it's better, even if you have to wait until you get home.
2006-06-13 14:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it comes from feeling 'different' or 'out of sync' with other people, or at least having that perception. A feeling of invisibility, of not being seen or heard for who you really are; or that no one really knows you. (that's it for me anyway).
How to lessen it?
Refuse to have that thought, the thought that tells you no one knows you are alive or cares. Takes practice before it is anywhere close to automatic. Alot of practice. Rehearsing this, even with imagery and relaxation techniques, may help the process.
I had to find a counselor who would hear me. And take some SSRI (which weren't really an answer). But it took a long time before I could even trust enough to talk to her. So sometimes it is that self-fulfilling prophecy---expecting no one to listen.
At some point you will trust enough to let someone in on who you really are and have them respond to the 'real' you in a positive way, and that is the building block to keep trying. It's not easy, but it is easier with one person on the journey with you.
2006-06-13 21:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by nanlwart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can most likely be lessened with medications. The feelings are caused possibly by childhood indecencies or depression.
2006-06-13 21:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one can ever completely know you, except you. Sometimes I find this comforting :) - other times it feels incredibly lonely. It's just part of the human condition. But I think it goes back to comparisons. You would never know what good is, if you didn't have bad to compare it to. So, you would never know what comfort it is to have your friends and family around you, if you did not know what lonely is. Does this help or make it more confusing?
2006-06-13 21:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by txassgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find people that you have more in common or can relate to better with and build stronger bonds with them, so you won't feel so detached. Find people who are genuinely interested in getting to know you, and vice versa. If you still feel alone, you may have some type of social anxiety, which there are medications for.
2006-06-13 21:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness can occur in marriages or similar close relationships where there is anger or resentment or a lack of Loving.
2006-06-13 21:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by jesus h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not being with ppl you like or have feelings for!!
2006-06-13 21:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by banana_gurl25 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋