My fourteen-year-old daughter said I was "being such a *****" and I decided to give her a seven o' clock curfew for a month. I know it is summer and that most teenagers socialize after 7 PM but I felt the punishment was called for. What are your opinions? Was I too harsh? What do you think an appropriate punishment would be? If your daughter said that to you, what would you do?
2006-06-13 14:13:20 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think it works .. if she can't respect you then you won't be able to respect her and her wants. She's not acting like a young lady so maybe she needs to be treated like a child and their curfews are at 7:00.
Even if it was a wrong choice of punishment (which I don't think that you were).. you CANNOT go back on it now because her behavior will only get worse if you aren't consistant.
2006-06-13 14:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its an appropriate punishment. You really need to stress though that even though she may have been angry and may have had a right to be, that there are different, more mature and affective ways of expressing it. She probably feels that its important that you consider her opinion (or act like you are) so she feels more grown up or in control, but bottom line you are the parent and she is the child. Try to find a compromise for the future and still enforce the punishment because no matter what, you don't deserve to be spoken to like that.
2006-06-13 21:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. I would have washed her mouth out with soap and then grounded her. She wouldn't be able to go out at all. It wouldn't hurt her in anyway. When I was younger I was grounded for 7 weeks. I had nothing. I had no TV no phone I couldn't go out unless it was to go to school. It didn't cause any depression. It teaches a lesson. If you think it will cause her any depression then give her a journal let her get her feelings out that way. I do that to this day. Oh and 7pm is not too early. Its a punishment its ment to be noticed and felt. They need to know they did wrong. I think you did great.
2006-06-13 21:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by babys_mommy_4_life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a daughter and teenager myself, I feel this will make her feel even more towards being a b***h, but no matter what form of punishment is used, I guess she'd still feel like that. It is an appropriate punishment. I don't know anything else that could've been done.
2006-06-13 21:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by lolz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that punishment is too harsh, but while she is home early try to spend some time with your daughter teaching her why it is not okay to call you things like that, like trying to instill the idea that it is not okay for men to treat women that way either and girls shouldn't treat each other with such names, especially not their own mother who has done so much for her.
2006-06-13 22:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Beccawho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were too easy on her. Soap in the mouth is what my Mom would have done. Maybe you should have made her stay home all together for a week or so, or until she could learn not to have such a potty mouth. Good luck.
2006-06-13 21:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
7 o'clock curfew??? Do you have any idea how much you can get in to by 7. Your daughter needed to be grounded for a month!! And slapped right in the chops!!! My kids are 22 and 20, never will they call me that to my face.I doubt they would behind it either. Trust me, my sons do not have the cleanest mouths.
2006-06-13 21:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by shakie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heavens, no. Not only was it appropriate I probably would have been more strict than that. I would have eliminated computer, cell phones, tv, videos, etc. until she learned respect. I would also set up a list of one time chores to earn back some of her "toys" (cleaning the garage, pulling weeds, etc, without any lip to me). If that solves your problem then good for you. Maybe that will be a wake up call for her. I hope so.
2006-06-13 21:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am around this age and let me tell you...GOOD PUNISHMENT! I love to go out and I don't curse. I am going to keep this question away from my mom. If I end up slipping a word...I WOULD BE IN AWE FROM SUCH A GOOD PUNISHMENT!!!
2006-06-13 21:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by mikeyeggs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in addition to being grounded....I would have my daughter write a paper on how women should be respected. As she is to be a woman soon, she should understand the full effect of what it might feel like for her own kids to call her a b****. If she insists on name calling and immature behavior...the paper is nice because..it helps her ability to write better, you can critique her paper ALL you want (the whole month if you want)..it isn't as though she is going anywhere...you can ask her for references..you can put her English teacher to shame if you wanted....the point is that EVERY discipline for children should EDUCATE them in as many ways as you can. Her penmanship, her English skills and her ability to edit a paper will all improve. Her ability to spell..you name it...hey for all you care..you could have this girl type a paper in MLA form with a bibliography! it isn't as though she didn't deserve it...if she is gonna call you that...then you can act like that and show her what "THAT" actually means and that no matter how you acted before...it is soft in comparison with how you COULD act...not in a physical sense...but..tell her..hey if you hated your teachers because they're tough...as Jack Nicholson said best," wait'll you get a load of ME!"
2006-06-13 23:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋