If you were to have inherited a genetic ailment since birth and had lived 43yrs, even though you were only suppose to live 7, and suddenly you start getting worse to the point of no return. So that in a few years (not more than 3) you may be dead. You know you are not dead yet, you still do things but breathe less, you cant eat most foods but you do eat and appear to be normal even though breathing and eating kill you in pain. YOu know this kind of life specially when it is a progressive illness that will eventually lead to death. And you are starting to see death from the mere lack of energy and good health. You know that doctors and even yourself cannot precisely say how long you have to live, but do know the facts,you are close to dieing.
What would you do , and please only serious replies, if you had Cystic Fibrosis were 43yrs old and were close to your last couple of years?
What things would you do? How would you do it so that you maintain some kind of cheerfullness?
2006-06-13 14:07:45 · 11 answers · asked by noteparece? 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
As each day comes, admire the beauty of nature. Admire the colors of the flowers and appreciate the sunshine and the birds that sing. Nature is God's handiwork of pleasure and enjoyment and a sheer awe to humans who believe in Him.
Do you believe in God? Do you believe in His Son Jesus Christ? Do you believe that Jesus died on the cross for your sins? Did you accept Jesus to come into your heart and life? If your answer is yes to all these questions, then you know of His love and grace and He is waiting to greet you in Heaven. In Heaven there is no death or pain or sorrow ever!! Not to mention you will be given a new body too!!
If you don't believe in God or His Son Jesus Christ. Then I suggest you talk to a pastor and ask him or her all about God and Jesus and become saved or born again. Only thru loving and believing in God and Jesus can you have everlasting peace.
Other calming things you could do is acknowledge the fact you have eyes and you can see; unlike those who are blind and can't see a thing.
Acknowledge all your accomplishments you had over your years and feel good about them.
Reflect on your happy moments and times in your life and feel good about them.
Call up some friends or family that you haven't spoken too in a long while and chat with them.
Acknowledge the fact you can hear; for there are others who are deaf.
Focus more on positive things and not so much on how you will die and how you will go with pain and what not.
These are just a few things I would do. But it's up to you if you choose to do any of them.
I am sorry about your illness and I know first hand it isn't easy dealing with it. Hang in there the best you can and do as much as your body will allow to bring some happiness in your life.
Good luck and I hope I was able to help some what.
2006-06-13 14:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lyndee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would do would be get close to God. That alone can give a person the KNOWLEDGE (not just the feeling) of ever-lasting life, and meaning to that life left here on earth.
I can't reasonably say that I know how you feel, I don't. My father has advanced emphysema and COPD, and cannot leave the house except just for doctor's visits, and the last time he needed his doc, the doctor actually made a house call to see him, so....though I don't personally know how you feel, I can at least empathize. But even though he is now home-bound, and by all rights should be completely impossible to get along with, for the most part he is upbeat. He has never been a "religious" man, but was saved as a young man, and is firm in his understanding of God's promise to him.
I would say, use the energy you have to do some of the things that you have always wanted to do, but then focus on others. It is pretty commonly known that the more one focuses on others, the happier they are.
God bless you, "jag", and know that He holds you in the palm of His hand.
2006-06-13 14:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by shiba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound careless or generic, but since I am NOT about to give you some medical panacea. I would HONESTLY pray to the Lord & ask Him to show you what His plan for you is through this. I believe if you truly are searching, He will show you the way. He obviously has some type of lesson for you because you are still here & sound like you have already beat incredible odds with this illness. It may look bleak, but if you want to live ~ don't give up.
In the meantime, make SURE you do whatever possible to ensure MAXIMUM comfort (no PAIN or little as possible) for now..see a chronic pain specialist & someone you TRUST (even professional) to confide in all of your toxic feelings. You cannot even begin to think about getting through this until you sort out those very BASICS first.
Check out massage..it's been shown in studies to decrease chronic pain, learn to take time to smell the roses ~ what good is being stressed when your body needs all your energy to fight & last of all..Love Yourself :)
Know that my prayers are with you.
God Bless *
2006-06-13 14:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by irolag100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would take care of the practical things like estate planning, i.e. set up a revocable trust, pour over will and living will (medical care instructions), and make sure that all of my financial information is in one place for the successor trustee and personal representative.
Second, I would spend my time with the people I love, family and friends. I wouldn't tell them that I was dying. And because they wouldn't know about my condition, we would all live, love and laugh as if everything would be wonderful forever. I would lose myself in their joy and try to forget about dying. Otherwise, I would continue to live my life doing all the things I love to do. Maybe I would take a trip and travel.
Third, when the time gets short, I will go to them and tell them all that I love them very much. They would all ask questions and wonder why the visit is being made, but would just shrug it off and say that I was just "in the neighborhood."
Fourth, I would make whatever arrangements that need to be made for my hospitalization and final days. When admitted to the hospital, notify family and close friends. Give instructions that my estate planning lawyer is to be notified upon my death.
2006-06-13 14:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say live everyday of your life like it is your last. Everyone has to leave this world and I think you should appreciate your 43yrs you have spent on this earth.Keep your head up by doing things you have never did before and the things you always wanted to do. Just live life one day at a time.
2006-06-13 14:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying: "do not die before you're dead". Easier said than done, I know, but some people begin to resort to humor especially if they know they were given a longer lease in life.
Loved ones are affected by someone close who's dying, rightly so. In many cases, avoidance is the only way people cope. Acceptance is difficult to achieve, but when you do, it makes the process easier for everyone.
I regret the situation you just shared, especiallyl if personal. I'd like to say this in closing: as long as you have all your faculties intact and you have full control in preserving your dignity when you bow out of this earth, nothing is more important. Best wishes.
2006-06-13 14:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by blucille2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend time with the people that I would want to remember me the most. Those are also the people that I would want to try my darndest to make sure that they; for a lack of better words; will be at ease with my death. This is the time to say everything to everyone that you have never been able to say before. You are not lucky to be dieing but you in a way are lucky to be able to say good bye. So many people leave our lives that didn't have a chance to say goodbye or the chance to be told good bye. By having the strength to say good bye you are giving everyone closure and that is one of the best gifts that you can leave them with and give to yourself.
2006-06-13 14:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by cellphonedc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live the rest of your life to the fullest. spend as much time with your loved ones as you possibly can. know that eventually you will be relieved from all of this pain and suffering. remember all of the good things you've encountered in your life. prayer helps a lot, no matter what religion you belong to, or even if you're not religious at all. life is not fair, but when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. i know that sounds so cliché but it's true. you're in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-06-13 14:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by eyeswideopen37880 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry. I would just try my hardest to live every day to the fullest. A day spend in sorrow is a day wasted. Think of every thing that you have always wanted to do or see, and go for it. Make these last moments the greatest.
2006-06-13 14:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live every day to the fullest and live it the way you wont ,do the things you long to do even if you have to do it a step at a time ,im so sorry to hear that you are that ill and my thoughts and prayers are with you ,don't give up you have beat the odds this far have hope and don't lose faith ,i will for you
2006-06-13 14:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋